The Importance of Truth and Honesty in a Relationship

We can all probably remember just how new and exciting our relationship was in the beginning. Chances are you loved to sit up all night with your partner talking about anything and everything; from your hopes and dreams to your worst fears, you shared it tall. As time went on, however, things changed. You stopped talking so much and just left so many things unsaid. Why did things change, and can you change them back?

Many times the communication stops in a relationship because of someone's good intentions. You may have wanted to keep some of the bad news to yourself, so that your partner would not have to stress out about it. You may have thought you were doing what is right. You may have felt strong for being able to carry the burdens yourself. What you were actually doing was ruining your relationship. There is no relationship without proper communication. If your partner never really knows what you are thinking or feeling, how can they really know you? The answer is: they can't.

By not communicating with the one person who is supposed to know it all you are isolating yourself. Eventually your feelings of loneliness will continue to grow until you can no longer control them. You partner will be wondering what is wrong, but by that point you may not even know how to communicate with them anymore. When the time comes that you want to communicate with them again, you may go about it the wrong way and only make things worse. Many people will resort to showing their emotions only in their moods or actions, and not in their words. This can put your partner under the wrong impression, making the situation more frustrating then it already was.

The only way to have a true and honest relationship with someone is to be completely honest. You need to share your dreams and desires with that person, and in turn, they should want to listen to you and encourage you. You are taking the intimacy out of your relationship when you begin withholding information from them. Not telling them something important is just as bad as lying. You should never fear hurting your partner's feelings. If they are really the right person for you, you should be able to openly communicate with them and have them understand that you are not saying things to hurt them, you are saying things to help them.

In a relationship, the key is communication. You need to tell your partner what you are thinking. I believe that actions can speak louder then words. However, if actions are coupled with words, they are all the more effective. Tell your partner how you feel about them. Tell them how you feel about everything, and your relationship will grow and prosper. Keep things from them and it will wither and die. Honesty is the best policy when it comes to love and lasting relationships.