The Key to Romance is Time Together
The mistake most couples or one-person makes is they're so much in love with their partner that they assume the relationship will last forever. They don't think it is something they have to work on. They end up taking their long-term relationship for granted without even knowing it.
From a biological standpoint, human beings are not built for long-term romance. Biologically, the body chemistry that makes our hearts flutter during a new relationship is replaced after several years with body chemistry geared more toward attachment. Couples therefore, need to work at keeping romance alive in long-term relationships.
You have to make time for romance; it's good for your health. People who go through a divorce experience poorer health and diminished quality of life, so longevity and overall happiness are additional reasons for keeping romance alive with the right partner.
Finding the time for romance is crucial to a marriage or committed long-term relationship, and it shouldn't be limited to Anniversaries, Valentine's Day or other special occasions.
The following tips are offered for couples that want to rekindle the romance and improve their long-term relationship.
Date your spouse or partner
Find ways to spend time together and enjoy each other. Each individual changes as time passes. The relationship changes as time passed. This core behavior (regular dating, emphasizing the relationship) says, "No matter what happens we find time for ourselves;" find time to celebrate the relationship.
Make sure your children see your love for each other
Parents spend 18 to 20 years of their lives preparing their children to leave home, and parenting requires sacrifices to properly care for children. But investments (like buying), in a long term relationship as a couple can benefit parents and kids alike, and make the "empty nest" seem not so empty after the children leave home.
If the kids don't see an emphasis on the relationship, what message they are getting is that marriage isn't as important as work, sports or other activities. When kids do see the emphasis, what they are getting is that the marriage, the committed relationship is important. This is crucial because we need to teach our children that our relationships are more important than things like work, movies and sports.
Start today
It's never too late to rekindle love and romance in a stale long-term relationship. Start from where you are, and begin doing things together that emphasize and celebrate your relationship as a couple.
Quit or recommit
Rekindling a romance is much more difficult if one of the partners has fallen in love with someone else and is experiencing a new surge of attraction that is pulling them away from their core relationship. It really comes down to a conscious choice and commitment. If both people in the relationship can honestly say "I want to get this back on track," then there's hope.
Romance and Sex
Romance and sex can make life and your long-term relationship as a couple more pleasant and rewarding. Couples that are healthy and who can sustain an active sex life, tend to live longer and be happier.
Here are some dating ideas to help rekindle that spark.
Spread a blanket
There is nothing more romantic than a picnic in a beautiful spot. You can make it even special by shopping together to choose the food and wine that will fill your basket.
Get moving
If you both enjoy golf, tennis, or just like going for a long walk, get moving. Sharing physical activities can help bring back that bond and help draw you closer together.
Cast off
Rent a rowboat or a canoe and sail around a lake or lagoon.
State or County Fair
Stroll the grounds, play the games in the midway or just take in the sites.
Remember, time together is the key. It doesn't matter what the activity is or no activity at all, just enjoy being together.
Published by Tammy Evans
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