The Life and Times of a FAT Girl

When I was about 7 years old, I had started to gain weight. I had weighed 4 pounds 6 ounces at birth so maybe I was over compensating for that. Who knows? Anyway, I was never the perfect skinny girl like the rest of my friends and was constantly reminded of that everyday at school. I would be constantly teased about how fat I was and how I needed to lose weight. I believe I have been called almost everything you can think to call a girl of my size. Even people I didn't know (who were older) felt like they knew so well that they could comment on my weight and I was only 10 years old. This experience made me wonder why is society so scared?

An F.A.T. girl's life is tough and that is putting it politely. For those of you who do not know what a F.A.T girl means, it means "Fabulous and Thick". On a regular basis when we go out, there is usually someone giving us a dirty look or saying something under his or her breath. If that doesn't happen there are the bold ones that will say it out loud and to a big girl's face. All we want to do is have a good time with our friends and love ones. We don't mean a harm and it is not like we have three horns on our heads and purple even that person doesn't deserve the rude and unsolicited treatment. There are so many things to do in your life then to tell people whom unworthy they are just because of what they look like.

Telling a person, something that they already know is not going to change a thing. You telling me I'm fat are not going to make me go "okay let me lose weight to please this person". In fact it will just do the opposite by making me depressed and go to my comfort zone, which happens to be food. Magazines show pictures of pretty people so they can sell their product but that doesn't mean those magazines should be used as law to mistreat another human being. Even Tyra Banks has said a million times that even her own pictures have been airbrushed a bit to make her look more glamorous.

To hold everyone to those standards is unfair. We were not designed to look the same or act the same. When I hear people call a girl fat and ugly, most of the time they are just talking about her being fat. Why can't she just be who she is? If she is ugly then leave her alone, there is no point on you making that statement if you do not care for the individual. One time I had seen a group of girls bully this one girl just because of her size. Telling her that no one would want her because she is fat.

When she does fine her a prince. He is what society considers "handsome" everyone assumes that he is just her friend. If its not that they are thinking, it is assumed that he must be after her because she has money or that he feels sorry for her. Why can't he be attracted to her beauty both inside and out? Why can't he be attracted to her hips, big butt and big boobs and just maybe her pudgy stomach? I know this one first hand because one incident when my fiancé and me had went to the movies and was waiting to get in. We were talking but not really standing together. The girls were looking at him up and down because he is handsome. When I went to go kiss him everyone just got silent as if they were not expecting that. Friends of mine have told me similar stories from girls that are slim and so called "pretty" try to hit on their boyfriends.

What is it about a big girl that has society so bent out of shape? I feel the reason is because people fear what is different. It's not that society hates big girls they just fear us. The fear of having to rearrange an industry that kept telling them that being skinny was being beautiful and that being overweight equals to being ugly. It also comes from the fear society, as a whole will start to like how a girl looks. Decide that we are stinky and we are above all the stereotypes that have been put upon us.

The fear comes from not wanting to be treated as second class citizens. To be given the looks that they may have given to a girl that is pleasantly plump, big-boned or fat. To as if they are unworthy of love just because of they are not a size 2 but a size 22. The reason why us big people probably have high blood pressure and depression is because of the treatment we receive from the people around us. Big girls are not a different species; we are all Homo sapiens. We all share the same beginning whether you like it or not.

Do not fear us just embrace us. There is no difference between you and me. I bleed the same as you. Don't judge me before you even get to know me. A big girl is constantly on the defense. Defense on why she dresses the way she does? (Because they really don't make cute clothes in our size that don't cost an arm and leg), Why she looks like that? (I have to eat to live, don't I?), and being told that she will not find someone who will love her unless she loses weight. Dealing with it all can damage our relationships with the one we love and we might not even notice it. If you are constantly on the defense you never know when someone is just trying to be there for you. This can hurt a lot of people in a girl's life unintentionally. The life and times of a F.A.T. girl is a tough one. A life spent having to go through many fights and misconceptions. You never truly know a person's life unless you walk in their shoes.