The Link Between Your Social Status and Your Libido

Going through my neighborhood and talking with a few open minded citizens I have noticed a social status between those individuals that have high libidos and those who do not. A libido is the need to conform to society and control the libido, contained in what is defined as the ego, that leads to tension and disturbance in both society and the individual. This disturbance is labeled as a mental imbalance that causes distress. Thus, libido has to be transformed into socially useful energy, through the process of coping or dealing with it. Libido can also be classified as the urge to mate. For humans, the natural way in which this occurs is through sex.

Those with a strong libido and the ability to find mates easily also have the tendency to become well known in a social place. For instance, we are attracted to those that are clean, have money, well shaped bodies, and have intelligence. Talking to some people around my community I've noticed that "the bad" boy/girl libido makes for popular sexual desire. They are most likely to find a partner quicker than the "shy" guy/girl. The attraction is phenomenal to wild rather than settled and tame. I also have noticed that sexual desire is more aimed in visual appearances than it is on any of the other senses. The more attractive one looks the more likely you will find a date.

Talking to a few married couples I have found that they were more attracted to each other by a visual appearance and popularity. The more friends one may have the more likely they would date. The funny thing is about these married couples, they have unsolved issues that keep reoccurring since the time they met each other. One couple I interviewed for this article still have problems over jealousy due to the man not being able to cut the ties with his childhood buddies. Yet another couple have issues that were overlooked and now regretting the marriage completely over the woman not wanting to work, and has only had 1 job her entire life. Many relationships happen because of a high libido. In society today, if you have no social network then you don't have a mate to go home to.

Many single people I interviewed have told me that their libido works just fine. Coping with the fast paced social lives they are able to find a partner to release the tension of everyday stresses. Which in my opinion, is risky due to social diseases. Some single people have what is call a fall back, or safety net. This is having 1 partner that they chose for mating with while dating several others. If the others don't give in to sexual desires than the fall back or safety net comes in handy. Not very fair for the person who is the fall back. Almost always, that fall back or safety net person is the "shy" one in a crowd of faces. They rarely get married.

Those with a high libido but never reach a social status of popularity usually take it to the bathroom on their own terms. This would be called self stimulation. A few individuals I interviewed have told me that they have no time to be socially active to find a partner. They are either busy working or just keeping to themselves. The men self stimulate up to three times in 1 day and can go a few days without. Only one man that I have studied self stimulates himself everyday and sometimes four or five times during a day. Asking a psychologist if this was natural, the psychologist told me "no the man has a definite problem for stimulus everyday." I learned that a healthy minded man will self simulate at least two to three times in one week. This means 8 to 12 times in one month. Now a woman will self stimulate 1 time in a day. They can go months without, even years. Although going years without some sort of sexual stimulation is not healthy on men or women.

All in all, I learned a great deal about those that are high in the social world. They can easily find a partner, release all sorts of stress factors, and be married quicker than those who are not socially involved. Those who are not have tendencies to become depressed, feel loneliness, and are more likely to be single longer. In order to become a non-single person in this society, it must be visual. Look good, get involved with others and interact with those around you. Being alone and prolonging it can become debilitating and prevent the affected person from developing healthy relationships and lifestyles. If the person is convinced he or she is unlovable, this will increase the experience of suffering and the likelihood of avoiding social contact. Low self esteem will often trigger the social disconnection which can lead to loneliness. Therefore, the libido will be an everyday self issue.

So yes, having a social life is healthy and is strongly a part of sexuality. It helps us grow and experience others and ourselves.