The Mommy Break Up

You've made a connection with another mother, who has a child near the same age as you. Everything is going great until one day suddenly you're no longer friends. Whether it's a natural progression away from each other or a result of a disagreement or fight, the Mommy Break Up can cause feelings of hurt and pain, especially when your children are still very good friends.

What do you do though when you experience a Mommy Break Up?

The simple solution is to be a bigger person for the children. Whether or not Mommies get along, the children are still friends and it's important to not break up a great friendship if it's unnecessary. In Mommy Break Up situations the children should never be made to suffer.

This means that you will need to not speak badly about the mother and do your best to hide your emotions in regards to the situation. The main reason for this is because children pick up on attitudes and words, and you might find your child repeating things you've said about your ex-friend to either her child or her and this could cause more conflict that is unnecessary.

If the situation is so bad that you don't feel you can put your emotions aside and allow your child to remain friends with your ex-friends child, you will have to sit your child down and explain the situation in terms that suit the child.

You can explain how Mommy and the friend have differences and feel that they can no longer see each other and this means that you won't be seeing the friend either. Make sure to reassure that this had nothing to do with your child at all so that your child doesn't feel guilty about the situation and blame herself.

This isn't ideal, to pull a child away from a friend, but in some situations it may be necessary.

The best possible solution to a situation like this is to work it out with your friend. Acknowledge your friends feelings, your feelings, don't be accusatory, and be open minded. Most time Mommy conflicts are clashes of personalities or just misunderstandings of the situation. Working it out allows not only your child to remain friends with their friend and you to keep your good friend.

And even if you don't become friends again it will give both your ex-friend and you a better understanding of what happened in the situation and hopefully the ability to put it aside so that the children can remain friends.

It's painful and sad when you lose a good friend but you have to make the best of a bad situation. In the end you may find that great joy comes out of the situation, renewed friendship, or just the joy of watching a child's friendship continue. When it comes to being a Mother often times we have to place our emotions to the side for the well being of our children so that they can be happy healthy children.