The One Secret to Having the Best Relationship

Men are not as complicated as women would like them to be, they are frighteningly simple and clear about their intentions but, its women with their projections and excuses that complicate the relationship.
This is the key to reveal all the answers to all your questions about the man in your life: what they say means nothing, judge their sincerity only by what they do. Take your boyfriends words and toss them in the garbage, crumple all your husbands' promises and put them in the shredder.
Having a great relationship comes down to one necessary observation but, the problem is most women ignore this obvious wisdom: ignore everything a man says and look at his actions because they tell the truth about who he is and how he truly feels about you.
Words and feelings and connection hold a gauzy and powerful allure for women but, all of these things have zero worth to a man, that is the reason he can say he loves you and then betray you without hesitation. Men value concrete things and words do not really exist as a solid thing in the world to your' boyfriend or husband and therefore they have no value to him; words cost him nothing, they have no value or worth to him which is the reason he uses them generously. Something that requires his time and energy has great value to him and words demand nothing of him which is the reason they'll say anything to get what they want or need.
Actions require something of a man and that gives their actions the only credence in a relationship with him; to consistently keep his promise to do the dinner dishes and to take the garbage out translates into genuine respect for you. If your boyfriend or husband does his share of the gardening and takes you for regular outings that's he planned and initiated, you can decipher these actions as authentic expressions of his care for your well being. If the man in your life constantly breaks promises and disregards your expressed desires and tramples on your feelings, he doesn't respect you and there can be no love without respect.
That may feel like a punch in the gut as the realization hits you that your' husband loves only himself or that your boyfriend is lying to you but, only when you look at the cracks the truth sneaks into, only then will your life and relationships change. Men are easy liars but, their actions always tell on them.
Look at what he's doing instead of what he's saying.