The One Thing that Will Make You Feel Sexy

A person can feel sexy regardless of size or shape. What makes a person feel sexy has everything to do with confidence and attitude.

One of the best examples I can think of to describe this is back when I weighed 320 pounds. I had very low self esteem, which kept me from engaging in life. I saw myself as a burden to others. I figured they did not want to look at me, much less be around me. I isolated myself from the world as a result. The word "sexy" was nowhere in my vocabulary...at least to describe myself.

One day I made the decision to lose weight. It was a long slow process in coming to terms with myself. Not only did it mean I would have to stop isolating myself from the world, it meant that I was going to have to stop worrying so much about what everyone else was thinking about me. For years I had not exercised because I didn't want anyone to laugh at the fat lady working out or walking. I knew I was going to have to brush those feelings aside and just do it.

I joined the YMCA and began working out. I began to walk regularly as well. My diet also began to change as I began to eat healthier. The pounds started to drop. By the time I dropped 20 pounds, I began to notice something. I felt sexy. I felt desirable and pretty. The funny thing about this was that in just looking at me, there was no real physical change yet in my appearance. 20 pounds gone from a 320 pound body does not really show. The change was from within myself.

My newfound self-esteem and confidence radiated from inside of me. I smiled more. I had a sassier attitude. I began to dress like a woman who was proud to be who she was...not hiding from something she wasn't. I got job offers out of the blue. Men began to flirt with me. I formed new friendships. I began to dress better. I began to get my hair and nails done. I began to treat myself like someone who was worth something. I began to feel sexy inside and out.

The change did not come from my 20 pound weight loss. The change came from my attitude shift. What made me sad was realizing all of the years I had wasted in hiding away from the world...worrying about what others thought of me.

If you believe that you are not sexy, nobody else will believe you are sexy. When you change your way of thinking, so will others. The way you feel about yourself will reflect to others and bounce right back to you. Try it and see.