The Potty Training Journey

Potty training your child is often a bumpy journey. But, it is a very achievable task - as the old saying goes, "College freshmen don't report to campus wearing diapers."

When approaching potty training, consider the following:

Don't rush your child. Some kids are ready at 18 months and others aren't ready until they are almost 4 years old. Many times, parents get upset because all of their friends children are potty trained and their precious little one is still wearing diapers. Learning to use the potty is on a very unique timetable for each child.

Watch for cues that they are ready. Do they ask you to use the potty? Do they mimic the actions of going to the bathroom? Do they try to remove their diaper?

Timing is crucial. Don't start potty training your child if you're about to go on a trip. If you're expecting a new baby in the next few weeks (or even a couple of months), you should postpone your efforts. Any other major transitions that are happening (e.g. moving or switching from crib to a bed) would also suggest that you wait a while before beginning potty training.

Potty Seat or Big Potty? Each child will have a different response to these options. Most prefer having their own little potty seat rather than climb up on the big potty. Manufacturers have developed some cute potty seats that have familiar characters on them such as Elmo and Dora. Others play music and have book holders.

Experts also recommend that boys learn to use the potty sitting down. Once they grow a little older, they can master the art of standing up.

When you get started, remember that of course, teaching a toddler to use the potty will be a process. It usually takes between 3 to 6 months and can take more time for some children. Sometimes a child will back slide a bit too after many weeks or months of successfully using the potty. Be extra patient and encouraging and the little one should bounce back quickly.

Be encouraging. Never punish your child for having an accident or for refusing to use the potty. That will only hamper the process. It's very hard to do this sometimes, especially when you're tired or super busy. Really concentrate on the long term goal and also on your precious little one.

Many kids respond well to rewards of stickers, M&M's or pennies for their successes. Some children tackle potty training with gusto when they learn that once they are potty trained that they can attend a special class (such as gymnastics).