The Pro's and Con's of Being Part of a Mom's Group

When we become parents we want what's best for our children. Often times we worry about whether our child is getting out enough and socializing well. Because of this we decide it's time to join a mom's group so that our children can have interaction with children their age and we as parents can have some adult conversations. But with joining the group there is always pros and cons that come with it.

One benefit is the interaction the children have. Younger infants often will not take much from the group, but as they get older, they take cues from the older children of the group. For instance a child that hasn't rolled over may try doing so because she's seen another do it or a child might try walking because she wants to chase after the other children. Of course with this interaction there may come some bad behaviors that are displayed by the other children as well. You may find your child start hitting because another child does it and his parents don't discipline him when he does hit. Because of this possibility you'll have to pay attention to what your child is picking up from the other kids and respond in the appropriate way.

Another benefit is that you as a parent get the adult interaction you do desperately need, especially in the early infancy of your child. Often children can be overwhelming and a mom's group gives you many people who can relate to you and help you as well. It's a place to ask for advice or just talk on an adult level. These groups often have Mom's Night Out (MNO) as well which gives you a break one night where you go out with the girls and the boys take care of the children.

One of the major downsides is that often times your child will catch a sickness because some parents don't mind bringing sick children to play dates, or they don't realize their child is sick. Children often put things in their mouths and toys may not be sanitized or they may try to share drinks or pacifiers. So you as a parent do have to keep an extra eye out on your child to make sure she's not eating, drinking, or tasting things she shouldn't. And if you notice a sick child you'll have to just keep your child away from the sick one.

As with any group you're also bound to have some catty behavior by parents. Often times though you'll find that those people who gossip or cause drama will weed themselves out within a few weeks and then you'll not have to deal with them anymore. But while they're there it may be stressful and hard to deal with.

Overall though mom's groups or play groups are beneficial if you pay are willing to put in a little time and effort.