The Proverbial Soulmate

I have been reading and studying spiritual material for more then 10 years now and I have learned about life, death, birth, life after death and the proverbial soulmate. Many people think they have one soul mate for all eternity, and they are on quest to find them. I like to call this soul-mate-mania. Here are my thoughts, I don't think it is unrealistic to want that close bond with someone. We want someone to love us unconditionally, to accept us as we are and understand us, and to share our deepest secrets with that one special person. We want someone who is our confidant, best friend and lover. This is all valid. However I think we go about it all wrong. Were so caught up in the way he/she looks, what kind of job they hold, how much money they make or what religious background they have. This is why we don't notice our soulmate when they cross our paths, so we let them slip away, and then we go from relationship to relationship still searching for that connection and bond with that perfect person. We are all human and we have flaws.

Some people hold steadfast to there ideals and the concept of a soulmate, thinking when they find " the one " they will be whole, happy and there life will be bliss, golden, and smooth sailing forever. I think this is dangerous and unrealistic. This could cause relationships to breakup or prevent a potential relationship from forming. Your setting yourself up for disappointment and resentment. As soon as there are challenges in the marriage or relationship, we think we are with the wrong person. We are imperfect human beings, how can we have a perfect relationship? Even If you find your soulmate, if there is no communication, friendship, respect, trust or love, it will not last.

A soulmate needs to come out of friendship and grow into love. We need to get to know each other's deepest hopes and dreams and encourage each other to achieve them. So look for someone who has the potential of being a lifetime partner.

As appealing as it is to think we have one person preordained to us for all eternity, this is a fantasy. If this were the case then finding our soulmate would be slim, we would have to be in the right location at the right time. If not, then they are gone forever." I think we would have a better chance of being struck by lightening."

In conclusion, what does this all mean? This is the way I sum it up....When you find that person that you are best friends with and trust completely, and you bring out the best in each other, when you can share your deepest hopes and dreams, when you have the same longings, when your soul is growing and expanding together and your long term goals are the same, when you have common interests, and you can sit in silence comfortably with each other, have mutual respect and motivate each other, also have a genuine caring about the others well-being. When there is a bump in the road ( and there will be ) you talk it out, and work it out, because you want to save the relationship. Then you found yourself a soulmate, and you will build that bond and a lasting relationship. Congratulations!

Note: In Greek Mythology, it is said that our ancestors had 2 heads, 4 arms and 4 legs, when they angered the God's they were split in half, down the middle. This is why we are looking for our other half.