THE SECRET: How Passive People Control Others

When most people think of a controlling person they think of someone who may be aggressive, dominating, verbally and emotionally abusive. They think of powerful, overwhelming, and downright scary. Yes, controlling people can be those and more, However, a passive, introverted, quiet, nice, person can be just as controlling. So what's the difference in how these passive people control others? Let's explore just what that passive person does to get their way with you and others.

Most people really do get it that someone who is screaming at us. Physically pushing us around, or even threatening us is obviously trying to control us. What is really hard to spot, and even harder to figure out is the Not so obvious things the passive person does. One of the most common things the passive controller does is use tears. Yes, they are not beyond crying their eyes out to melt your little heart into submission. They have already figured out you're a soft touch, and every time they want to control you, or a situation, here comes the water works. They really are good at this. You almost want to give them an Academy Award for Best Performance in a Drama.

Another way the passive person controls is through being really nice, and doing things for you. This one is really hard to figure out. The reason it's hard to figure out is that there are just plain nice people in the world willing to help. The type I'm talking about is the one doing things for you because if they do it, it's their way, and their outcome. They're in charge, and everything is exactly as they want it to be, very nicely camouflaged with them being a saint and oh so helpful. So, the next time someone does something nice for you, really look at the situation, it may surprise you!

Weakness is another tactic passive controllers use. They just can't do it themselves. Whether it is imaginary illnesses, they just don't know how, or you do it so much better than they ever could. Talk about a bunch of manure. They are just plain lazy, and it's easier to get you to do it. They often times use lots of flattery about how wonderful and capable you are to swoon you into compliance with their requests. It unfortunately, works out quite well for them. The recipient, who's ego ahs been inflated is unaware that they are hypnotized by this Svengalli into doing just about anything.

Last but not least, the rescued and the rescuer. Passive people somewhere along the way figured out that their so many people out there that just have to rescue others, it makes them feel oh so good about who they are. The passive controller loves this one. The more trouble they seem to be in, the better for the rescuer, and most certainly for the one being rescued. The passive controller can rack up a whole list of problems, confident that their own little private rescuer will be there. If that isn't the height of control. They actually control others by letting them help, and getting them out of trouble. Wow, what a racket they have going/

There you have it, some of the common ways passive controllers, control others. This type of person is actually more scary then the aggressive ones. After all you see them coming a mile away. It's those sweet, passive ones you really have to be careful of. There like a shot in the dark!