The Secret Revealed - What Do Men Want?

This is an age old question asked by many teenagers and women. The problem is, many men can't admit to what they want or need, and expect you to be a mind reader. Let's dig into this one, and find out what men really want. Ahead of time, let me thank the ones who have given me advice for this topic along the way, including my son, my husband and my best friend (yeah, he just happens to be a he!).

Anyway, the simple answer is men will not always put into words what they want from you as their partner in a relationship. Sometimes they can't put it into words. Sometimes they are afraid to put it into words. Most of the time, they are just too damn lazy to put it into words or terms that allow you to figure out their innermost wants.

So...what do men want? Don't worry, we'll get to what women want later this week!

Fun - This requires a gal that enjoys or is willing to try the things that interest him. He wants you to be all about him, he wants you to focus on his interests, his likes and his dislikes. If your guy is a biker, but you are scared to death of motorcycles, chances are, your relationship will suffer. If he loves to ride the waves in the Summer and hit a snowmobile in the Winter, you need to find a way to love it! Or you simply need to find out what else he finds fun, and be ready to choose another option. Either way, the goal here is to find a common ground that you can both enjoy together.

Note: This does not say that he doesn't have to do the same, because he does! If you are willing to get on that motorcycle, he better be willing to shop till you drop with you or watch chick flicks. This door swings both ways guys!

Brains - Girls, your man doesn't want you to bat your eyelashes and blindly agree with everything he says. He wants you to be able to debate with him, disagree with him, be willing to listen to his side of it, and then prove why he is wrong! The Blond Bimbo routine will only get you so far...if you want to survive a relationship, you have to be willing to show that you are not dumb. You aren't going to scare him if you tell him why McCain should beat Obama. He'll be interested to know what your thoughts are and why you think that way. He will love the good natured debate that is sure to happen.

Beauty - Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Never has a statement been more true. Regardless of perfect skin or gorgeous blue eyes, your guy will think you are beautiful when you are you. If you are more at home in sneakers than you are in 3 inch heels, put those sneakers on. Drop the perfect makeup or the perfect dress and jump into the mud with him occassionally. A smudge on the nose after playing in a pile of leaves is more attractive than flawless makeup after a night on the dance floor.

Compassion, Understanding, Acceptance - Compassionate women will grab a man faster than a woman with a sword like tongue. Guys don't enjoy it when you sit around picking apart every chick in the place, or pointing out the differences between you and her. If you are willing to pick up a puppy dog off the side of the street because someone left him homeless, that guy by your side is going to turn into mush.

Men thoroughly hate it when they give you a compliment, and you pick it apart. If they think you are gorgeous, it doesn't matter that you have gained 10 pounds over the holiday or that you can't fit into that set of size 6 jeans anymore. Graciously accept the fact that your guy thinks you are hot, even with that zit the size of a football right on your nose.

The Bottom Line - Men no longer go for the "fake". They want a real woman by their side who can give as good as she gets in every aspect of the relationship. They want you to be agressive in the bedroom, they love it when you go after what you want in life and 99% of the time, they want you to communicate your needs. The days of "whatever you want baby" are gone. It is time to be a strong woman who is willing to get what she wants. If you hate it, tell them. If you love it, tell them. If you are indifferent, tell them what to do to make it something you love, need or want.

Love and relationships are a two way street. Be willing to walk that street with your partner, with your head held high and confidence in your step.