The Sensual Woman

When you hear a woman called "sexy," what do you think of? For most of us it's sultry curves and a lot of skin. But ask any bona fide aficionado and they'll tell you that an attractive woman is far more than just the sum of her parts. Want to put a little lust in your life? Here's what you need to know to go from being part of the backdrop to the girl at center stage.

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The first thing to do is to get sensual. According to Wiktionary, "sensuous" is defined as "appealing to the senses, or to sensual gratification." Start paying attention to the way the fabric of your favorite jacket feels, the way the smell of your shampoo renews when you let your hair down, the way your muscles feel when you stretch. Enjoy the sensations, savor them. There is nothing so sexy as a woman enjoying a moment - it's a sensation that onlookers can feel the fringes of, and it's indescribably attractive.

Slip Into Something More Comfortable
"Uptight" doesn't make anyone's list of sexy attributes, but "comfortable in her own skin" does. Look for activities and environments that relax you and make you feel more alive. Then take advantage of them. Go out dancing, learn rock climbing, take a comedy workshop - choose something that interests you, and which also requires your total physical involvement. Your confidence will rise, stress will be more manageable, and you'll find that every breath you take is more relaxed and enjoyable. Take an active part in your life, and others will find themselves magnetically drawn to your joie de vivre.

Details Don't Hurt
Appearance isn't the whole of attraction, but it doesn't hurt. I'm not talking anything dramatic; all it takes is a little something extra, like the frame you don't notice that makes a picture pop. Tell your hairstylist you want more body in your cut, buy some expensive lingerie, pay a little more attention to what colors look best on you. It doesn't have to (and shouldn't) be anything enormous, just something that makes you feel more attractive. A detail that makes you feel sexy is one that others will be drawn to as well, and you'll find you're getting appreciative glances much more often.

If you remember only one thing from this article, make it this: It's not the passion itself, but the capacity for passion that makes a woman attractive. You already have a sensual side. Cultivate it. The finer things in life are in little moments all around you - start savoring them, and soon you'll be a finer thing yourself.