The Signs of Jealousy in the Relationship

Everybody has a good relationship with family, friends and others. We all have been through experiences when we felt that someone close to us suddenly cooled off and kept their distance from us after hearing of a positive development in our lives. For human beings, it's natural to covet happiness. People usually assume that happiness can only be attained by the acquisition of certain blessings at definitive points in their lives. If they don't get what they want, they feel sad. Watching someone else get it makes them feel even worse about their situation. That is what we know as jealous. As a result, they start feeling jealous of that person. Jealous can happen to people of all ages either younger or older.

For example, your best friend in school would love to have a new computer. Consequently, when they see another person with a brand new one, he feels jealous and covetous. Teenagers crave good grades, popularity and good looks in their academic life. A pretty, smart and popular girl might attract the negative feelings of the nerdy. These scenarios continue into adulthood and, quite literally, throughout our lives. We should learn to identify jealous behavior and then learn how to handle the negative feelings of it.

The sign of jealous is like silence or pause that follows your announcement of success. The sincere friend or relative will start gushing happiness as soon as you inform them of your pay-raise, promotion, engagement, pregnancy, or new home acquisition. The jealous person will, however, pause in silence, and mumble a half-hearted congratulation, as they try to digest the news. It's difficult for them to feel happy for you while being gripped by the flames of jealous.

The second sign is the negative aura that surrounds you when in the jealous person's company. The jealous person exudes such a negative energy toward the person they are jealous of, that the latter can literally feel very uneasy and tense around them. The warmth and friendliness are suddenly gone.

Breaking off eye contact or all kinds of contact for some time is also the sign of jealousy. After hearing your good news, the jealous relative or friend will shift his/her eyes away from you either by looking down or away during the conversation. They will not contact you too much after that. Their jealousy feelings make it difficult for them to look at you or talk to you. It pains them too much, because you have something they don't have. That is the sign of jealousy in relationship.