The Subconscious, the Thinking Mind & Clutter: How to Recognize Repressed Emotions in Our Own Behavior

Have you ever wished you had more time in your day to accomplish you long list of "to do?"

Ever felt as though you put some things off, when you could have gotten it done after all?

How about the thought that after all was said and done, when you thought something was going to be really awful, long or an inconvenience in some way in one moment, so you made excuses, avoided it or even gave it to someone else who perhaps really should done have done the task that you knew more about, to get done and then got angry because it was all wrong and you could have done it better?

Any of these examples sounding familiar? The above questions or ideas are just little ways that we procrastinate when we allow our emotions to block what is really bothering us.

This is called self-sabotage. The greater challenge is that at times, in the process of our self-sabotaging, we could even be sabotaging those around us, which may include family, friends, and co-workers. It isn't necessarily a conscious thinking pattern or something we are doing intentionally. It actually can be caused by being addicted to specific emotions as well. If you read the article, "Emotions, Health, Stress & the Body," it will explain how specific chemicals are our emotions and how we recognize them as such and how we can become addicted to negative emotions after certain events, in place of being healthy and processing as we need to in order to stay well in body and mind. Outwardly, we will create behaviorisms as well, that begin to support these negative thought patterns as well, reinforcing and reflecting our inner most beliefs, concepts and emotions -even if they are hidden from our conscious mind because at one point we were afraid to deal with an emotion that may have been related to a specific event or events.

Other examples that demonstrate how our inner most world or subconscious is reflected by our own behavior so can learn to recognize it and be able to consciously address it, would be how we maintain our living and work space. Notice how you are organizing it or not. Is it cluttered? Do you or other members in the household have to clear the dinning table just to eat? Can you walk through your home clearly or is there only a trail; or is it isolated or hidden clutter packed in rooms where you can hardly get in? This can signal that you mind is cluttered with many emotions that have not been dealt with and you are overwhelmed, which really needs to be sorted and taken care of to feel better and free.

Another way to recognize your subconscious talking to you through your behavior, which is probably the most challenging for many, yet the most effective way to "wake up" and that is noticing and listening to how several others around you are repeatedly responding. In other words, if you are hearing responses more and more frequently after interaction with you, that individuals are feeling hurt, angry or scared or don't want to be around you or are avoiding you; this would be an indication that you behavior and/or the way you are consistently speaking or treating individuals is not with positive energy.

They may even make statements such as, "your so bitter" or 'why are you angry all the time" or "it seems like every time we turn around you're depressed or upset about something" or "must you be so negative?" These are just a few examples. Negative emotions express themselves in sarcasm, hidden in jokes at the expense of others (so in reality its not funny, it just is an excuse not to take responsibility for the emotion or behavior), as well as general disregard for other individuals needs, interests, values or property.

Even if it is not your intention or you feel like it's always misinterpreted; the point is that if it is consistently happening - it's not always everyone else, you have something going on internally that needs to be worked out because its showing up in your tone of voice, or mannerisms or your treatment of people that your are not able to recognize on a conscious level. So be willing to explore the possibility that your giving off an undertone that you have the power to deal with and clear out, yourself, if you choose to, just by saying yes, it could actually be me after all, and I am willing to take charge of whatever emotion is hidden away and get the tools to do so now.

Sometimes folks believe doing that in itself is too scary, because you belief you might lose control or not like yourself when you take a look at what ever it is; or worse, people won't like you. The reality is everyone already see's you as you are and would appreciate if you would too. When you do, it can only get better, because then you would like yourself a bit more to make the changes necessary. It is when you don't like yourself, that you avoid it and don't do it.

There are many tools available, such as traditional counseling, psychotherapy, supported with the complimentary therapies such as Reiki, acupuncture and Qigong. I would also recommend a form of psychological acupressure, called EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique, also called Tapping.

Those familiar with acupressure and acupuncture, have an understanding of energy meridians and acupressure points, as well as the reality that emotions, pain and stress effect the body. With this awareness, the technique or tool of using EFT or tapping, so called because one "taps" on specific acupressure points on the upper body and face, while addressing emotional issues around events in order to decrease the mental/emotional and physical attachment and barriers related to these emotional "blocks."This process essential aids one in catapulting into the ability to be progressive towards goals, taking action and having clarity to function, be healthier and create steps in ones own lifestyle that are effective. You're invited to take a look at the resources on the side bar to see for yourself today and then you can decide what works for you; happy "tapping."