The Top Mistakes that People Make when Dating

There are some top mistakes that people make when dating. They are red flags to anyone. Avoid these top mistakes in order to be a success. You can also avoid scaring off a person that otherwise would really love to know you more.

Avoid stalking behavior when calling.

What does that mean? That means that you have to draw the line between showing interest and becoming a stalker. I know a few people that would be considered completely wonderful catches for anyone if only they would adhere to this tip. One example is calling.

There was a guy once that wanted to date me through a social dating site. He called me when I offered my number. I was interested in him at first. Then he began acting as though he was the rule maker for the phone. I heard: "you don't answer your phone," and "you must be with someone else, because you don't seem interested in me very much". I asked him what he meant and he went on to say that I should return the call immediately and follow a set of behaviors in order to be accepted by him. Well boys, guess how far that got him? You got it! I dumped him. Like self-fulfilling prophecy, he ended up with me being with other people and not wanting to be with him. I can't really explain why. It's just one of those things that is what it is. Don't do that.

In general, call a person. You can call back if you forget to leave a message the first time. Some people get so excited that they mess up when they call. You might have a message that is silly or musical and they forget to leave a message. If that happens to you, simply say that you forgot to leave a message. The next part is essential to follow. Do not call the person back until they call you and say that they want to hear from you. You will loose the person and their interest by behaving in a stalking manner. If you are actually ignorant enough to add a guilt trip then you are asking to get dumped. Don't come crying to your friends if you did that. You did it to yourself. Nobody did it to you. No, he or she isn't stuck up. You drove them away. Accept it, remember it and never do it again.

Texting Errors

Call instead of texting. Do not fall for the mistake of texting instead of calling. In general you must adhere to this rule. If someone texts you instead of calling, then it means that they are either busy or they are not interested. If you have someone who wants a "texting buddy", then you are dealing with someone who is an "attention whore". They are usually people that have a long list of people that they text when things aren't exactly "rocking" in the love department. Don't be flattered. It is an insult to be a "texting buddy" with someone. So be sure to call instead of texting. Save texting for flirting in between real life contact.

"Pity Party"

When you meet someone and start to share about your life, there are some mistakes that can be innocently made. One of those is the "pity party" conversation. It is all right to be honest about failures in your life and disappointments. You need to be honest and open about your life. It can become an area that you both commiserate together on. That comes later though. Start by keeping it simple.

If you must address any problems or drama in your past, then simply state the facts and move on to another subject. If the other person feels the need to pity you then be sure to say that it's all-fine now. Move on to the next subject. Nobody wants a "pity party drama queen". Men, you can be guilty of this too. Save the drama for the therapist's office. Keep the date romantic. Otherwise he or she will loose interest when they see this red flag.

Sex too soon

This one can vary by the situation. Sometimes people do stupid things. I've known of two couples that are friends that had sex on the first date that ended up getting married. They are still together and happy. It is an exception however, rather than a rule. In general, don't be too sexual on the first date. Don't have sex on the first date. Instead, give a romantic kiss. Leave them wanting more. That's the rule. It's important to avoid setting off a red flag on this. Your date will think that you just wanted to "hook up". They won't call back and they won't take you seriously. Now, there are those times when that's all the two of you want. Just be sure to clarify that before you have sex.

The general rule of thumb is to show respect for the other person. Keep it simple and be respectful. That works every time. If you avoid these mistakes that people make when dating then you can avoid setting off red flag alerts that should be avoided.