The Top Three Problems that Cause Divorce

Divorce happens and there can be many irreconcilable differences. Many divorces fall into three main categories for reasons for the breakdown. If we can understand these problems while we are still married than maybe we can somehow save the relationship or find adequate professional help. In this article I will attempt to discuss these main reasons for divorce.

Sex

Sex has always been the number one reason for the marriages to breakdown. Its either no sex, to little sex, too much sex, lack of knowledge concerning sex, or sex with the wrong person. It still amazes me how many people get married and have very little comprehension concerning sex. This doesn't mean people need to experiment before marriage to be able to please their partner. It means they need to read and discuss it with each other find out what pleases the wife and she find out what pleases her husband.

Fear and not knowing can cause problems in the marriage. Also, forcing the one partner to perform in a way which they dislike or are just not into it. The one thing that will help in this area is to communicate with each other. I suggest that each partner read the book "The Act of Marriage" by Tim Lahaye. The book has a Christian theme but he does not pull any punches when talking about sex. If more couples would educate themselves we would have less problems in this area.

Finance

One of things that can kill a marriage is arguments about money. When couples have debt or argue about how much money is spent or saved you can have major problems. Let me offer some suggestions in the area of finance. Don't get into too much debt. If your into debt now its time to take strides to get out of it. Budgets really don't work but what you can do is to make agreements on what is spent when it comes to large purchases. I suggest any purchases over $100 should be agreed upon.

Each partner should have a little mad money that they can spend from each paycheck. Even if its only a few dollars a week. If you have to talk to a professional about your finances do so. Cut any unnecessary expenditures you can do without. Any little things you can cut that you don't need is more money you can put towards your debt. Finally, make sure you save some money even if its only a few dollars every week. It adds up in the long run.

In-laws, outlaws, and third parties

Outsiders can kill a relationship. Outsiders are anyone outside your immediate family that includes mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, etc. They do not belong in your marriage. Family is one thing but when they interfere your heading for trouble. This includes friends as well. Do not allow anyone outside your marriage to remark negatively about your spouse. You need to stick up for your husband or wife even if the person is right. If you allow others into your marriage I can guarantee you your heading for trouble. Well meaning friends can come between a husband or wife even to the point an affair could come out of it. I have seen this happen to marriages and watched them be totally destroyed.

If you find your marriage having one of these problems than do what you can to talk it out or seek some professional assistance in dealing with these problems before it destroys your marriage.