The True Story of Sexual Abuse in a Stepfamily Part II

Less than a year ago after my step-father passed away, my sister and I expected our mother to finally admit what happened to us kids, but did she? No! She has given us more grief than any child should go through just to get an apology for not protecting us from him. She is cold hearted and fake in her voice when she talks to you, alot like her own mother, which is sad.

A few weeks back my stepfathers real son contacted my mother after over 40 years, he said "he had been looking for a long time and had been close many times to finding him," but he came to late. I was never told about the meeting that took place until afterward. My mother figured I would tell him the truth about our childhood and the abuse, and I would have, but the ones my mother let be there was my sister and brother and instead they had a private meeting with him and told him about the way his father was and that they didn't want him walking away thinking he missed some wonderful childhood. In return he told my sister and brother that when he was 1 and 1/2 that our step-father beat him and kidnapped him from his mother and was kept in a tin shack until they found him. It was shocking!

That day of the meeting my mother had lied to his son on the phone before he came down and made it seem as if he was the most wonderful man, and at the meeting, well my mother asked my brother to tell his son something good about our childhood and my brother stood up and lied and said he had to go to a poker gamer. In reality he went home and had a mental breakdown and then called my mother after the meeting in the park with his son and told her he never wanted to talk or see her again until she admitted what happened to her 3 kids. My sister was the same way except she only stopped talking to my mother for a few days. My sister can't handle the stress of it all, it just tears her down too bad mentally. My sister says that my mother will never admit what happened to us and that we just need to get past it and move on with our lives. Even though I wasn't at that meeting, I was told of all the conversations that took place and can you believe it? Even after my mother was told about what he had done to his son, she still won't admit it.

I wrote her a letter through e-mail only to have her come back with why didn't you take a polygraph test when you said you would, I told her I shouldn't have had to take one just to prove to her it happened. My other thought was, why didn't she ask my brother and sister to take one, or my step-father for that matter. Its been 30 years since we told my mom and she still doesn't believe any of us. I don't talk to her because when I have had to, you can hear the hate seething from her voice because I won't let it go. I want an apology from her I deserve it after all he put me through and her for not protecting us when a lot of the times she was right there in the house when it happened. She has proved to many times with slip ups that she knew the sexual abuse was happening, And she saw the physical abuse happen because she let him do it.

Now, my days are quite without her in it, except when my child comes over and she tells me all about the text messages or the phone calls from her. Sometimes I would just rather not hear it. My life now is quite different without my mother in it, it is spent by days by the pool with my kids or playing dominoes or scrabble and just being. It is nice, it is quiet, it is peaceful.