The Truth About Pornography

I have a friend who is perfectly content with the fact that her husband loves porn. Not only does he love porn, but he is addicted to it. She has shared the fact with me that viewing porn together is a huge 'turn-on' for them as a couple. And you know what? She's a good person. And it seems that to them, it works. You may ask yourself, "What is the huge issue with pornography?"

Well, there is an answer.

I detest pornography. Pornography in movies, book, and magazines...it's all pure trash. Why? Well, for the most part, pornography is a celebration of the degradation of women. Women try to chase so many dreams and successes in the world, but men will only continue to see them as sex objects, and pornography is a huge blaming factor for that fact. Think of these facts: 90% of children ages 8-11 have viewed porn online while supposedly doing homework on the internet. That is extremely damaging. This is damaging because children, mostly boys, when they see women displayed in strange poses and in extreme nudity, that becomes normal to them in their minds. To them, women begin becoming sex objects, and this of course leads to sexual predators. Pornography warps minds, but not just young minds.

Countless marriages have been gravely affected by pornography. In essence, especially if you are a Christian, any viewing of pornography of visits to a strip club are considered adultery. In the Bible, it clearly states that even if you look at another women with lust in your eyes, you have committed adultery. Pornography causes strain. A family that views pornography as normal and even encourages is terribly mistaken.

There is another female I know who has admitted that her husband's pornography viewing disturbs her, but for some reason she supports his habit, and even buys videos for him. How does this make sense? He clearly does not love her. To love someone is to want that person, to care for them, and to have eyes only for them. But how can she say that he loves her when his attention is on some big-breasted, thong clad bimbo on the computer screen? How can that man say he loves her when his libido is increased only by slobbering over a women that isn't his own? Pornography is a fantasy. It's a world that is not, in any essence, reality. It's a damaging and hurtful world, not only to you, but to those you supposedly love. To allow pornography into your marriage, into your life, and to allow your spouse or significant other to frequent strip clubs is to have a low self esteem. Not only does this express a low self esteem, but a weakness. You're weak to that person. You're trying to hold on to every strand of love that you possible can, but that pornography is there, tearing his attention away from you. It is not healthy. It is NOT right. It will never be okay. And more than likely, he will never change. To be a true woman is to NOT accept your significant other's lust addiction. He should be lusting and getting hard over YOUR body, not some other women's breasts. If you're a stuck with a cheating husband who is addicted to strip clubs and porn, ask yourself this: Is this what I want for my life? What do I deserve? Why am I putting up with this?

You don't have to put up with your spouse's pornography addiction. He may claim that it's really 'nothing', or that he doesn't do it often enough to be a problem. But if you're reading this, then you know that it truly is a problem to you, and that is what matters. Many people will probably try to tell you that you're wrong, or that you should be easy and understanding to your spouse's fantasy needs. But this isn't true. You need to respect yourself and give your significant other an ultimatum: "It's me of your fantasy females." He can't have both. To lust after those women he comes to is to disrespect you as a women, a wife, a mother, and a friend, because in the end it's not you who is satisfying him, its someone else's under dressed daughter who make some extremely poor choices in life.

You want a man who will love you for who you are. You want him to love you, and your body, and desire nothing else. Understand that it's perfectly normal to hate what he is doing to you, your family, and your marriage, but also understand that you deserve more. It's time to put your foot down and do something about it.