The Truth About Soul Mates

This is one of the areas that people ask me about the most. Who, what and where is their soul mate? And how to find that person?

The truth is we have more than one soul mate. Thank goodness! Who wants to try and track down that ONE elusive person? Here are other frequently asked questions about the mate of our soul...

How will I find a soul mate? Never fear about finding your soul mate. You WILL come together. And you have a better chance if you are open to it. Being open to this means that you know you deserve true love and that you aren't so worried about finding him/her that you actually create a block. Being desperate is the easiest way to NOT find a positive relationship!

How do I know if he/she is my soul mate? This is easier than you think. People often believe that a soul mate union is pure bliss. Not so! A soul mate union is very deep, indeed! But a soul mate will also challenge you, frustrate you, and dig in so deep it feels like a thorn at times. Simply put, it's a person that you can't get out of your system.

So are some soul mate unions actually negative? Nothing having to do with the soul is negative. Everything we go through in life is presented to us so that our soul can learn, love, and grow.

Should I stay with a soul mate who is making me miserable? NEVER! You deserve to be happy and have true love. Just because a soul mate has come into your life and you live in misery doesn't mean you have to stay! You are/were with this person in order to learn something. Believe it or not, many times it's the simple lesson of letting go and raising our self-esteem!

And don't forget, they're going through their own soul lessons. If they're stuck in a low place, (anger problems, abuse, addiction, etc.) they are here to learn self-control, love and tolerance, but you shouldn't stick around while they refuse to learn! Once you move on, the lesson is learned and you can now find a more positive relationship. Never stay with anyone who abuses you in ANY way! That is not a soul lesson for you to learn!

How do I attract my soul mate? Our energies reach far and wide and our souls will recognize one another and come together at some point. The main problem I find is people who crave love so badly that they jump into the first relationship that comes along, stay in it and end up miserable, find someone else before they're even out of that relationship, then they attract more of the same...so on and so on. Our energy is what attracts people to us. If we're in a bad place in our life or feel badly about ourselves, we will attract a person who is attracted to the energy we have at that time. So it's wise to be sure your self-esteem is in good shape and you've had time to heal from a past relationship before going out into the dating world.