The Ultimate Guide for Women on Finding Your True Love

I think everyone can find their true love, if given the right circumstances. I don't just consider myself lucky to have found the love of my life because I truly believe that fate had a lot to do with it. More importantly, my actions are really what sealed the deal. In no way am I saying that having a special someone is the only way to make your life complete because your life can still be complete with out a significant other. What I am saying is that having someone to love and having someone love you back equally is, in my opinion, the best connection two people can have.

At the ripe age of 23, I was advised by my older and wiser girlfriend on gaining a better understanding of the whole dating scene. After following her advice, not only was I able to figure out if a guy was just in it to get a piece of the pie, but I was able to get the upper hand. If I had not been given this wonderful advice, I don't think I would be happily married to my best friend for 4 years with two beautiful children. With the divorce rate up at an alarming rate, (about 60% divorce), why wouldn't you take every precaution when looking to find the right match?

From the second piece of advice and on, consider them a test that he must pass. If he continues to show interest in you, then he is definitely a keeper.

First things first - Don't go out seeking a relationship. The best relationships are the unsolicited ones. You know, a place where you least expect it. Some unexpected places to meet a potential love interest would be fueling up at the gas station, grabbing a cup of Joe on the way to work, a book store, or my personal favorite, at the grocery store. I live near a Fire Station and I always run into the local fire fighters at the grocery store. I am always recommending to my friends who love fire fighters, to go to a grocery store that is near a Fire Station and believe it or not, one of my girlfriends did meet her now fire fighter husband of 3 years at a grocery store. Maybe she did go out seeking a relationship, but it's not the typical place to meet people at. So, you get the idea.

Second - Don't judge too harshly. A horrible hair cut or out dated clothes can be changed, but if he's a smoker and you are a non-smoker, that can be a huge conflict of interests. Being over weight can be a touchy subject, but if you really like him and that's your only concern, maybe you could find some activities that will contribute to his losing weight. It's okay to be picky, just remember that it is impossible for anyone to be perfect.

Third - Women, don't always make your self available. I was fortunate to have a busy schedule, so when I was phoned or asked out on a date by my now husband, I wasn't available immediately. I always left him anticipating when I would call him back or when we could go out next. I would call him back within an hour or so and would never leave him hanging for too long. That's just rude. My point is that men love the excitement of a chase and the victory of the catch.

Forth - Don't give it up too soon. A good, long lasting relationship is mainly based on mental compatibility. Granted, physical compatibility is important, but to have a solid relationship, I believe a couple must be able to communicate. Once a couple has the communication, the physical element is just a bonus and is also much more meaningful. Plus, if a guy is willing to hang out for 3 to 6 months to get to know you and not your private parts, then you're headed in the right direction.

Fifth - Be confident. Know that you are beautiful and deserve to be treated like a princess. Confidence is one of the best assets anyone can have, but there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Jealousy is not a good thing either. Know that you are the best thing that ever happened to him and that he would be lost without you.

Sixth - Other peoples' opinion matters. So have your family and friends meet him so they can point out anything you've missed due to love being blind. Friends and family only want the best for their loved ones, so they are going to observe closely to make sure they are the best candidate.

Last, but definitely not the least bit of advice. Don't get heavy on the subject of commitment. You will know if the relationship is leading towards commitment, especially if he takes the time to get to you. In my opinion, that is vital because ultimately, you want your true love to be your best friend.

Good luck and I hope this helps you find your true love as much as it helped me.