The Way to a Man's Heart

How many times have you heard the aphorism, "the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach?" In other words, if you're a good cook, this enhances your chances of finding a man. Another fallacy is to find a man who is "God-fearing," "church-going," or "equally yoked." Equally yoked entails more than a religious connotation, and should not be used as such. Doing so, leads to the indictment of one's character, when you know very little about the individual. The idiom is actually biblical; it's used religiously and taken literally, because of the bible passage below.

• 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"
  
  

What is critical in two people coming together and staying together, is that they are on the same page; they are both financially responsible; can handle pressure situations without resorting to scapegoating, and the quality of each others character coupled with spiritual maturity. Religious beliefs are more hereditary than anything else and often serves as a clandestine smoke screen that can do irreparable damage to a relationship.

This article, however, is not about religion, nor does the author intend to step on any canonical toes. It's my hope that the reader is not offended by the aforementioned statements regarding religion because if you are you will totally miss the main point of this passage.

Without further ado, the quickest way to a man's heart is to find out what he's passionate about. If he does have a strong affinity for food, then the adage just might work for you. Unfortunately, most men who would make the decision to commit to a woman based on the way she cooks, neither he nor she is probably eating very healthy.

The woman who highlights her cooking in her dating profile is typically one who uses lots of artificial flavorings, sweeteners, preservatives, MSG, butter, shortening, hydrogenated oils, saturated fats, and the list goes on. Whether the couple exercises or not is a moot point because unhealthy eating totally defeats the purpose.

Here's the deal, when you meet a guy, take the time to listen carefully. The more he opens up to you, the more you will discover what he is passionate about. If his conversation often drifts toward sex or intimate topics then it is a strong possibility that he is obsessed with sex. Sounds harsh, but it's true. He has a passion for sexual activity and you have become the new object of his desire.

Some guys are sports fanatics but are rarely addicted to watching sports. Sure, there are certain games he may not want to miss, and he may go on and on about how "we" will have a better team next year, but sports will not trump the love of a good woman like a drug, alcohol, or sex addiction will. A deleterious habit such as drug use, alcohol abuse, and the whore-monger desires that accompany a sex addict, has, and will always destroy a relationship if it is not detected and cured. And how many men do you know will admit to being a sex addict?

Here's an example, this author is a lover of plants and flower gardening. However, my affinity for horticulture will never destroy a relationship. Just as the sports fanatic's affection toward football, baseball, or basketball (or whatever the sport, and chasing women is not a sport) will rarely have a negative effect on a committed union between two people. More than likely, if he's at the game, his significant other will probably be there with him, and if she is not, it's because she has no desire to be there.

Listen to his conversation ladies. If you give him enough rope, he will use it to either hang himself or to secure the binds of a lasting and loving relationship.

If his passion turns out to be a legitimate, safe, G-rated habit, the more you learn about it, the quicker you will get to his heart. And fellas, this works both ways.