The Word Every Toddler Needs to Hear

If you have a child in your life that is around the ages of two or three, you may be familiar with those hysterical fits, commonly named tantrums. You might have experienced the falling out of a child in public and felt the embarrassment as the passers-by witnessed your feat. It is always at the most inopportune time, that there will be a fist fight of the wills between the parent and toddler. These can be stopped with lots of patience and ear plugs, no seriously.

You can deter those fits of temper by those who find the two's horrible or terrible. You can do it, but it will take time. The first thing you must understand is that somewhere they have subconsciously been told they can have things their way and at any time. I wont begin to point fingers, because that isn't the main issue.

The most imperative thing for parents and caregivers of children in this age group to help them realize that they must learn to accept the word, no. It may sound really simple and it is. You must reprogram them to not only hear the word without going into any hysterics. But, they must accept the word while remaining calm. This will prepare them for a better future and overall a well rounded life.

Begin at home by telling them no for anything other than those things that needed for life sustaining purposes and for times when they are cooperating. They are able to have treats and participate in fun things they enjoy only when they are following your instructions. It will take time, but you will start to see small but significant progress if you stick to it.

If you are not able to adhere to the program, you shouldn't wonder where their uncontrolled behavior came from. We cant control them, if it is our own subconscious and even out right messages that tell them differently.

Once you see the first sign of cooperation, reward them. Don't get weary when crying fits seem to be innumerable, because they will be. It is in time, when you tell them no and they accept the answer keeping all their bearings, that you have started to succeed. Just tell them no and wait for them to cry and scream to get over the fact that they didn't win. Each time they cry and it subsides with you getting them to participate, you are one step closer. This word is the best gift to give to any kid, as a parent.