Things to Realize After Your First Date

Hey there! You really hit it off with a girl last night, but you don't really know how to approach the newfound appreciation you have for each other. It seemed like yesterday was a total "click," but waking up today, you found that you don't have the confidence to approach that telephone to make the dreaded phone call.

Is it because you're afraid of being rejected? Let me tell you this: 9 out of 10 times a woman will say that it is the man's responsibility to contact the girl. But ladies, do you know how much you have left us in the dark with that comment? So many things can happen when you go on a date, who knows if it is the right idea to call her back? Would she call me back if she really liked me? Will he get tired of me if I approach don't play hard to get? Will he think I'm too open too quickly? The questions are many, but some things are just plain simple.

The courses of action you take during your first date will ultimately lay out the foundation of what will happen afterwards, so let's get some of the basics down. Body language is a major key in determining if the other party is really feeling it. If a girl is feeling your vibe, she will most likely make physical contact with you such as touch hour arm, hand shoulder, and whatnot. She will also tend to make lots of eye contact during the outing. If a guy is feeling a girl (not like that), he will really feel at home with himself and being to smile, act naturally, and more comfortable. The essence of the first date is usually the woman determining if she really likes the guy or not. You (being the guy) most likely saw this woman at a party or a club or something and decided to ask her out on a date.

As visual attraction is very important in the way guys base their feelings around a girl, most likely they will already have a physical attraction or else why would they ask the girl out? So after she has accepted the request and you're going on your first real "date", it is her turn to decide whether she likes you or not. Women don't place nearly as much emphasis on physical appearance as guys do. So make sure your abs aren't your brain. Guys, take things slow and determine if she really is into you. A girl shows her emotions more often than not, so use your brain and think about it! As for the girls, a guy will compliment you non-stop if he really adores you. You may not use your brain for this one, but your famous intuition.

If you really like each other and both of you felt chemistry, feel free to take the initiative to ask to set up a second date. This is the quickest transition possible, as it is a move from first immediately to second (with schedule and everything planned out) so that there is no waiting. Although both sides can do this, it is preferable that the guy takes the first step in asking the girl if she would like to see him again. This leaves the woman to decide what to do and take control of the situation. If she doesn't want to, she may politely reject you (or not), and if she does, well, you're a winner. By taking the initiative, guys let the girl feel wanted, something that couldn't hurt any chances you have of dating her.

Remember to never act infatuated with the other person. Even if you are, hide it as best you can, as most people will find it a real turn-off if you are not giving them their personal space. "Ok, I know you like me, but it's getting a bit creepy." This can be the case for either guy or girl. Develop your attraction slowly as you come in contact more; stop trying to show off your attributes the first time around. One day you will realize that you've exhausted all of your resources.

If you didn't schedule a second date and are deciding on contacting the other party, make sure you do it through telephone. Email, text, or instant messaging are all very bad ways to approach the situation. It makes the other party feel a bit detached, and it feels as if you are not putting your wholehearted effort into really trying to get his/her attention. Women may also feel that this is the "coward" route a guy can take for fear of rejection.

When you are on the phone, there are 3 possible outcomes: 1) She really enjoyed the date and would like to see you again, 2) She will politely tell you that she is busy or wouldn't like another date, 3) She pick up the phone. For the last two possibilities, get ready to understand the hint. Understand the difference between being led on and being gradually rejected, as it should usually be most blatant within the first couple of encounters - she is not leading you on.

One thing is for certain: Don't be so quick to make things sexual. Something of that magnitude can complicate things and ruin a relationship mighty fast. So it all really depends on what type of person you are, and what type of person you are chasing. Most people will only go out with each other if they feel that much needed connection that humans have been trying to describe for so many years dubbed "Love." Some guys will like a girl so much that they will go to great lengths to secure his position in her heart. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But as humans, there are a few rules that need to be followed out of politeness and general courtesy.

When you do get that tingly good feeling inside of you, you will know that you really care about this person.