Things Women Must Learn About Men

Women don't understand men and men don't understand women. That is a battle that has been going on since the dawn of time with very few solutions or specific notions about either gender. That is until another AC content producer, Shamontiel Vaughn, created a list of the Ten Things Men Must Learn About Women. Ms. Vaughns list was very detailed and it can be viewed on her content producer page but it lacked the other side, the man's point of view. That is where I come in. Here are my Ten Things Women Must Learn About Men.

What ever you do sexually, and men like it, you must do it every time thereafter

Women love to do things sexually when they deem that men deserve it unknowing, or choosing to ignore, the fact that men have a creative imagination toward sex. When a woman does something sexually that excites her man, he will be expecting that same act/trick each time they engage in sex. Once it's done it becomes the point of no return. That new experience is like a person taking a hit of crack for the first time, men crave it and expect it. Men don't understand that it was a one-time thing or only for a special occasion. If you are not willing to keep up with that you started then don't open Pandora's box.

Stop using your Period as an Excuse to be A Bitch

Yes, every month women go through discomfort during their menstrual cycle, every man on earth knows and understand that. But that does not give you a free pass to act like a bitch. More importantly, don't take it out on your man. Blame the person responsible, Eve. Your period is no reason to get out of character and act likes a wild banshee, control your actions and your tongue.

What you will not do sexually, another woman will

In the dating process, before the two of you embark on a relationship, it is very important to get all sexual expectations, dos and don'ts out in the open. Don't lie about the limitations of your sexual performance because the truth will come out sooner than later. If you find your man is interested or accustom to anal sex, for example, and you are not, tell him. Please don't use that line, "with the right one I might be open with it" that is not going to fly-at all. You will be leaving your man to wait and wonder if it will ever happen, the problem is that every man has his breaking point. Once is patience has run its course he will go to another woman who will fulfill his desires. That does not mean he does not love you, it only means in order to keep from completely leaving you, he will have to get what he wants elsewhere. It is selfish not to please your man the way he wants to be just the way it is selfish of your man not to please you. Don't create the opportunity for your man to stray by being close-minded to his sexual needs because one way or another, he will get what he wants. Just because we have an orgasm does not mean the sex was good don't get confused, just because we orgasm does not mean you made it happen. During the act of sex, regardless of if its enjoyable or not, an orgasm by a man is definite weather he enjoyed the sex or not.

We are not mind readers, say what you mean and mean what you say

I can't stress this enough, please say what you mean and mean what you say. Women love to play the elusive role and expect men to automatically know what you are feeling, thinking and what not. You are in for a big disappointment if this is the type of woman you are. If you tell your man you don't want to go out Friday night and he makes plans with his buddies, don't get upset because he did not suggest something for the two of you to do. Don't tell your man nothing is wrong and when he stops inquiring, don't get upset that he didn't already know. Men act and react off what it is said and not what he thinks you mean. This is where the lack of communication comes into play, so if you say you don't want to celebrate your birthday make sure you mean it. If you say size doesn't matter then don't be upset if his package is light. The best approach to communicating with your man is to be direct, trust me. It will save you many arguments.

You cant replace our mothers so don't try

A man wants a companion, an equal, someone they can build with. Men do not want a woman that tells them what to do, when to do it and how to do it. Men do not want a woman that is going to nag, keep track of his whereabouts or go through his privacy. It is one thing to make suggestions but don't try to force men to do anything and don't lecture men. Instead be supportive of their decisions, endeavors and even pitfalls. There is something about a mothers love that no man can resist so don't try to take on the role of his mother in order to be closer to him. You will be perceived as stepping on his mother's toes, which will cause conflict between the three of you. Keep the peace and play your role as his woman, not his mother.

Don't undermine or challenge his manhood in public, save all disputes and disagreements for when the both of you are together privately

A few weeks ago I had a couple friends over my place to watch a football game, Steelers vs. the Chargers. At some point I attempted to negotiate a bet with one of my male friends but his girlfriend disagreed. They got into a shouting match in front of myself and my guests, which ultimately embarrassed my male friend. Here's the thing, if you disagree with your man in public or among friends do it in a lady-like respectable manner. In a manner that will not embarrass him. A man worries about how he is perceived in the eyes of his peers, even strangers and men like to think he is in control. If the disagreement is that huge, discretely ask him to leave the area with you in which you can voice your opposition. Make a hand gesture, nod or even a text message but don't do it out loud in front of everyone. You will be labeled the fun sucking girlfriend and his circle of friends will not accept you.

Men love you but they don't want to spend ALL their time with you

A man needs time to himself or time for male. Time alone or with the fellas is essential to our sanity and to the survival of the relationship. Please do not get upset if you haven't spoken to him all day and he hasn't called. That doesn't mean he is cheating, it doesn't mean he isn't thinking about you, just give him a chance to miss you. Let him rip and run but give him the time that he needs to do the things that men do, he will come to you. If you give a man too much attention he will loose interest, quickly. If you don't give a man enough attention he will stray. If you nag a man for his attention, you will never get it. Respect the fact that men do have a world outside of you, and despite your world revolving around him, you don't revolve around his. You both need time alone, so respect his.

Don't Get Jealous of the Close Female Friend

Men do have a social life prior to meeting you, along with that social life comes along friends, some are female. Don't get jealous of the female friend. Instead of getting jealous and asking him to terminate the friendship, get close to his female BFF. Why? Because she knows and will know more than you ever will, even after you are married. Why is this? Because his will reveal his inner most secrets and fears to his female BFF because he is not courting her so there are no limits. Do not assume your man is having sex with her; his new commitment to you does not void his friendship with his BFF. They have a totally different relationship than you and your man does. When you argue with your man or shut him out with the silent treatment, his BFF is the one who will be the voice of reason and help your man see thing from your point of view. Yes, it's true. The only time his BFF will advice against you is when you become unreasonable or crazy. Since she is his BFF she has his best interest at heart. At that point she may stop becoming your ally and introduce him to a woman she deems for suitable for him.

Men are not Immature for playing Video Games

On the packaging the games say "for ages 6 & up" Just because your man plays video games does not mean he is immature or juvenile so stop saying that! On your mans day off do not give him a list of things to fix or errands to fun, let him relax in front of the couch playing video games, if that is his thing. Don't get upset and walk in front of the television while he is playing, don't unplug the system and don't, don't, don't TALK! Your voice only brings down the retail value of the game console. Women indulge themselves in the lives of their favorite soap stars or with celebrity reality shows. Let your man indulge himself in his temporary fantasy gaming world. Nowadays your man can compete with other players in the world (Xbox Live and Playstation Live) let your man feed his competitive nature with is video games. If women can spend $300 on a pair of shoes to only wear once in a blue moon then men are allowed an hour or two playing video games.

SHUT UP!

Men LOVE silence. Sit and watch television in silence, play video games in silence and drive in silence. Not saying all the time but if your man is not talking, take that as a hint, Shut up! Don't over converse or be too pressed to "communicate". Communication is a two-way street and you can't force it. If you nag your man about not talking enough you will never get him to open up, it happens on his own terms. Men do not like to argue with his woman, we hate stressing and fighting. If you have this overwhelming desire to talk when your man does not want to then I suggest you get a hobby or find some other way to occupy your time.

Bonus Suggestions:

Stop listening to Beyonce' and Jazmine Sullivan. Busting the windows out of your mans car will get you in a world of trouble. Remember his female friend? He may not be allowed to hit you but she can

Dress appropriately for your body type. If you are 300 pounds then belly shirts or low-rise pants are not for you. If you bend over and show the world the crack of your backside then that is a problem. Very unattractive and un-lady like. Plus, no man wants to see stretch marks.

Don't call before God wakes up. Call at a reasonable time, most men like to sleep in on their day off. So don't call dumb early in the morning to talk about nothing. Actually wait for your man to call you. If you live together PLEASE don't wake up talking. Bad way to start the day.