Thinking for Yourself

When we are born, we are ready to learn from observing the people who are our guardians. We learn how to love by being loved from those who care to fulfill your needs. We can also learn how to be selfish if the people taking care of you makes you wait until they are good and ready to help you. The selfish type of people will take their own good time to answer the babies cries , change a diaper and will show a grumpy face to the child. Some have been known to curse out the baby or have killed a baby for crying. Taking on a large responsibility will be difficult, but there are other ways to handle difficulty. For instance, those who cannot handle the responsibility should pass it on to someone who can. It won't make the parent a failure, but an honest person who just cannot do it. After all, it is not about the parent or guardian alone once the child enters the picture. Yet, each one of us is a product of our upbringing that influences how we behave, and what we believe. We have learned behavior by what we saw our parents or guardians do or react to.

Then some of us through observation and/or bad experiences in a dysfunctional family learn from it. Learning from an experience gives you the knowledge of how and why it happened. Then you will be able to understand what could have prevented the incident from happening. Therefore, those who think about things will be able to be better parents to their children in the future. Unfortunately, this will not be the case for everyone. Some of us do not exercise our own thinking when it comes to event that happen in our lives. It is like walking through life with a blind fold on unaware of fear or pain. Perhaps, to follow the parent god-like figure appear to be a familiar path to take for one who dares not embark on the confidence in self.

However, there will come a time when each of us have to step back and take a look at our lives. We must discern truth from fiction and right from wrong. The Bible tells us that when we grow into maturity and adulthood it is time to put away childish things. Childish things does not only apply to toys or silliness, but it does include attitude. Meaning, each of us should want to exercise using our own mind to make decisions that pertain to our own individual lifestyle. It is not intelligent for an adult to succumb to peer pressure, because it looks juvenile. On the other hand, it is not natural for a child to start gossiping about other adults. God should be the example in our lives in what we say, do, watch , read, walk to, drive to, and treating others. If you are a product of a dysfunctional family who are not capable of leading you in a good path, go to God and he will direct you. Remember to stop, watch, listen and observe life around you. Look for the positive pros and negative cons in everything life can teach you. Once you learn you can decide to help others see another path. This is thinking like God would.