This Agreement Will Save You Grief

Grief weighs in about problems, family, and trouble we bring our own way. How do we do that? One way is when we buy into somebody else's dream. It just don't work for us; for example, sales people are told to envision themselves as successful, it's called dream building, so when they sell you something, they are building their dream. Makes sense doesn't it, they get commissions off the sale, usually a percentage of the tag or sold price, and so they want to make that sale, it's important; it's part of their dream. You have a dream also; it is of a life of peace, of plenty, of prosperity and the pursuit of goodness that we know as the term happiness. Grief blows across this field of our lives as a disturbing force, it can come when that life we have gets changed in direction suddenly, like the squeal on a set of tires straining to keep the car out of the ditch; grief comes. Grief can come when you make a purchase that isn't going to be good for you, it is the purchase that you will regret, the product you will own that you don't need. Grief will come when you look at it, everyday and know you didn't need to purchase it.

How then do we avoid this grief? Because the answer isn't complicated it is sometimes ignored, but this is one that works. It will prevent grief from getting to you if you put this into use. If you don't put this into use, it can't help you, but if you use this, it works and is a tremendous reliever of the pressure in sales situations. Here is the agreement, you make this agreement inside your life, but you write it down, it is a contract with your own identity, and you must promise yourself that you will always honor this. It's called "walk away for a day." There you have it, no purchase on the spot.

Now you, like so many others, may be saying, that's too simple, but many have said that and then realized they hadn't given it a chance; returning to the deal, they remade it, and then discovered it works. One person put it this way, "I just told them I couldn't buy it today, that I had a contract with a very special person that didn't allow me to buy anything without thinking it over for a day. At first they wanted to try and pressure me into it, but then they realized that if they did that, they for sure wouldn't make the sale. The next day I realized that I had a vacuum cleaner that I'd been using for two years and that it was doing fine." This person shared with us a savings in their life of fifteen hundred dollars. That's not bad for one agreement, is it?

You write this down, "no purchases for a day walk away." It's like the old "Monopoly," "get out of Jail Free" card, a day, you walk away. You're saying that such isn't always convenient, and certainly if you've driven some distance and see a bargain that truly you just can't resist, then the card might not help you; but if you get called, if you see deals on the Internet, if you're up late and watching television, you might want to give in, because $19.95 that isn't sold anywhere else seems like such a deal you can't pass it up, then you remember - "Hey, I've got a contract with myself, and I need to walk away," for how long? One day, and this is a guarantee, put a day between yourself and over 70% of the trigger purchases you make, and you won't make them- now, that might not seem like a lot, but you'd be pleasantly surprised how much grief this will save you.