This Week in Depression - Finding a Date to the Movies

This is the season for going to the movies. The Departed is Still Out. Oscar winners, nominees and few who the Oscars overlooked are still out there. I'm dying to go. I have lots of friends who want to go with me, but sometimes it feels like you'll never get the chance to discuss them afterwards with someone you can also cuddle up with. Why is it so hard to find a movie date these days.

No matter where I look, all guys really want to do have a hook-up. They don't like to go to museums on dates anymore unless they're really serious. You can't just go for a hamburger and talk anymore. It's either too serious to be that casual or way too casual to get to know you. Self-control against that kind of anxiety ceases to exist anymore. Casual date movie night has flown out of the window.

What is it with people who need to have one or the other. Can't two people just simply talk anymore with no expectations? It's a hard question to answer. When I smile at a guy he gets one of two looks in his eyes even though he might now know that I notice. The first look is, "Oh my God, I hope she doesn't like me. I don't really want a girlfriend right now". The other look is "God, she's hot! I can't wait to . . ." well, you get the idea. Is there no middle ground. Does anyone out there just want to be friends first and see where it goes? Oh many guys say that but what they actually mean by "seeing where it goes" is that want to have sex with you. Are there people out there who actually want to do that?

And when I say people, I am including women. Women can't be excluded because just like the guys of today, they're looking for nothing serious. This, in some people's minds, automatically means that looking for something extremely sexually casual. It all has to do with the advent of the Internet. Quick fixes on Craigslist to dating websites that many people only go on to hookup and chatrooms where explicit sex talk can take place. That's just it. People want a quick fix in between their busy work schedule and pure sex is better than having a relationship with drama.

So excluding those people, are there any other people out there who simply just want to enjoy simple entertainment? Movies, books, plays, music, concerts, etc. are all there for our enjoyment. Now you say, why not go with a friend instead of a guy who you might have a romantic interest in? Well, because it's more fun. Flirting and feeling close to someone is a very nice thing. But my problem here is that being close to someone does not have to mean that you are in love with them. Going out and having fun with a guy or a girl that you like shouldn't have to be a big thing. They don't have to be your girlfriend or your boyfriend. It can just be fun. There are a lot of things out there to do and people who give that life up for a few fleeting moments in the bedroom forget about real pleasures of life - human kinship.