Three Reasons Not to Have a Baby Shower

A baby shower is a really cool experience for many soon-to-be mothers. However, this experience is not for everyone. Read on to see if a baby shower is not the right thing for you during the stressful months before you give birth.

When a woman announces a new baby, it becomes a bone of contention among friends and family about who will plan the baby shower and what details it will include. Just like some couples choose to elope, some pregnant women choose to skip the baby shower. This article offers you five reasons not to have a baby shower if the stress of planning one is just too much for you.

1. Stress and time involved with planning a shower. When you are expecting a baby, there are so many things to plan. You have to arrange the baby's room, wardrobe, personal care, daycare, and other details. Forget about other practicalities like a car seat, a stroller, a life insurance policy, a pediatrician, birth announcements, pictures, and a baptism. If you don't have the time or want the stress of planning a shower, don't agree to have one.

2. Preserving personal relationships. So you have three sisters and two best friends. Don't forget your mom, your aunts, and your cousins. Who can you pick to organize the shower and where will you have it? If there is no easy choice, you can avoid this headache by just letting people give you baby gifts because they want to without throwing a party.

3. You like to do your own shopping. It can be time-consuming to go and register yourself at baby stores and furniture stores. After you register, you won't know until after the shower what items you still need to buy for the baby. If you like to pick out everything yourself, then having a shower would only give you a bunch of things to use out of guilt for the generosity of those who gave you the gifts in the first place.

When you are surrounded by people who want to do nice things for you and your new baby, there are other ways to include them in this important time. They can help you to set up your baby room, provide babysitting for you after the baby is born, and other helpful projects that ease the stress of becoming a new mother. Remember, you don't have to have a baby shower. Don't be locked in by other people's expectations for how you should celebrate the arrival of your little one.