Three Reasons Women Don't Want a Man Who is "too Nice"

When asked, most women will claim they are looking for a nice guy. This makes perfect sense as nobody is going to be happy with someone who treats them badly. But what happens when "nice" becomes "too nice"? While some may argue that a man can never be too nice, I am here to testify that it is possible. Here are a few reasons why women don't really want a "perfect" guy.

It can be smothering

Nice guys understand that women like to have a little attention. They know that we go all gooey over an early morning text message, or the occasional love note left under the pillow. Tbe problem occurs because they often don't know when to stop. One of my good friends dated a guy who text her to tell her he missed her 30 seconds after he left the house. That's cute, right? Sure, the first time. But after a few weeks, she got to thinking that it was more annoying than romantic. He never gave her any time to miss him because he was always there, either by phone or in person. Instead of feeling loved, my friend felt as if she was suffocating from all the attention.

He never makes a decision....ever

My biggest issue with my ex was that he would never make a decision. From choosing places to go on dates, to choosing what to watch on TV, he would always ask me what I wanted. No matter how many times I asked him first, or told him it was his turn to pick, he always let me decide. This would have been great if I'd wanted to spend the rest of my life with a doormat. It wasn't that I liked the idea of having to fight to get my way, I just needed to hear that he actually had an opinion. If he couldn't help me to reach a mutual decision about what to cook for dinner, how would we have coped with the more important problems in life?

If you give an opinion, he will never tell you that he doesn't agree

This issue is just as bad as always giving in. Some nice guys seem to think that they have to agree with everything you say, just in case it upsets you when they have a differing viewpoint. Even if you ask them what they think, they will probably tell you you're right. While there are women who think this is a great way to live, for most it is just infuriating. There is nothing wrong with having a healthy debate. In fact, every now and again, it can be a lot of fun!

All women want to be with a man who is honest, caring and considerate. What we don't want is a man who is going to start calling the local hospitals if we don't instantly answer our phones on the first ring. Relationships are supposed to be equal. Finding a nice guy is a good thing, but if he is too nice, it can quickly become boring.

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