Time for Marriage Counseling?- Seven Signs

Most therapists agree couples wait too long to seek therapy. By the time couples get to the counselors office they are flooded with feelings and entrenched in destructive patterns.

Damage control and healing needs to take place. This needs to occur before changes can be attempted.

Call a therapist and seek counseling if any one of these signs shows up in your marriage:

1. If you feel stuck in the same pattern over and over even though you have attempted to change.
2. If you experience frequent thoughts of ending the relationship.
3. If you are finding yourself attracted to other people, either for emotional intimacy or sexual intimacy and you are tempted to act on the feelings.
4. If you tell everyone how you are feeling and what is going on with your relationship, except your spouse.
5. You avoid being alone together. You make excuses to avoid going to bed at the same time, spend a lot of time on the computer, at work, talking on the phone, or being busy with kids. All ways to exit the relationship while still in it.
6. If almost everything your spouse say is irritating and you do not like spending time together.
7. Your spouse is angry or shut off from you and will not open up even though you try to talk.

Come in early, You do not need to be in crisis. As soon as you identify any of the above seven signs call a therapist. If your spouse will not go, go yourself. It is more difficult , but marriage counseling can start with one person seeking therapy.

THE GOOD NEWS IS: If you see any of these signs you can pick up the phone today and start repairing you marriage now.