Tips on Bringing Sexy Back...to The Bedroom!

Okay, so you've been married for a couple of years (maybe even more) and you and your husband are definitely comfortable with each other. You're no longer ashamed of your bodily functions and he has smelled your morning breath a time or two. Developing a comfort zone in the bedroom is a definite way to kill the romance.

But no matter how old you are, how long you've been married, how much weight you've gained, or how many kids you have, there's no excuse for letting intimacy die. I recently had a friend tell me that she did not care if she and her husband never have sex again. I was floored! Her reasoning was pure exhaustion and lack of excitement on either end. If you find that you're in a similar state of mind, try one of these simple, costless ways to help bring the sexy back to your bedroom tonight.

1. Turn off the tube! Before December 2006, I never imagined not having a television in the bedroom. My husband and I babysat for a couple who obviously did not have to worry about ESPN or LMN taking anyone's attention at night. Not only do they not have any type of cable or satellite, they don't have a television in their bedroom at all. We were definitely disappointed to open the large oak armoire positioned directly in front of their bed to find neatly stacked clothes. How would we make it for 2 weeks without being able to watch the 10 o'clock news before falling asleep? The only entertainment accessible came from a couple of Cd's of love songs and a Bose radio on the nightstand. To sum it up, by the end of that week, we had not missed the television. Every night we popped in a CD and concentrated on each other. It was as if we were on vacation. This was an important time for us. We realized just how much of a distraction the television had been.

2. Put away the cotton pajamas! Ladies, Ladies Ladies! Why would you sleep in something that would make you look pregnant when you are definitely not? And for those of you who want to conceive-- try going to bed every night in your birthday suit. Or, pull out one of the cute little nightgowns you got as wedding gifts and brush your hair every night before climbing into bed with your man. In other words, if you care enough to look good during the day, why not let that attitude carry over to the bedroom? Besides, he is your husband. The two of you are supposed to have sex. Why not keep it interesting, exciting, and fun by looking good for him?

3. Take a nap! This might sound a little absurd. But it is especially for those of us stay-at-home moms. I must admit that it is possibly the best practical advice I've ever been given. It came from a stay-at-home mom who had been married for over 20 years and whose children are practically adults. The reasoning? It does not matter how tired your husband may be or even if he's not feeling so well. If he wants sex, nothing else matters. Being tired is no excuse for you to use. Yes. You are home most of the day, but by bedtime you are exhausted-- and with good reason. If you have kids at home with you during the day, nap with them. Get yourself an hour nap in whenever you can. If you're well rested, you won't mind staying up an extra hour to play with your big kid.

Of course these are just a few ideas that have all worked for me. Whatever you choose to do, be sure to give your sex life the attention it deserves. Try to think about sex as more than just a wifely duty. Do all you can to keep it sexy in the bedroom!