Tips for Courting Your Wife

Those were the good old days when the boyfriend called because he missed his girl, he brought flowers to win her heart and he would take her anywhere she liked even to the dreaded chick flick - all with a happy grin on his face. Then one glorious day, he gets down on one knee and recites a beautiful and romantic speech usually ending with the words, "Will you marry me? "

After the nuptials are announced and the knot is tied however, the courtship seems to become less frequent. However, it still takes place but its not always husband initiated and it usually involves less chick flicks, flowers and happy grins. Then after the kids come along you can simply forget it!

The problem is that you really shouldn't forget it. Courting your wife is a critical part of marriage. Men need to be the initiators because it contributes to the way the woman perceives herself and her value in the relationship. Women who don't get courted in a relationship often feel neglected and unappreciated and this in turn affects the way she begins to view her husband. Husbands will tell you if you ask that the most sexy thing you can do as a wife is to be "in to him." This can be a challenge for women if they feel as though their husbands are no longer interested in them. It therefore becomes a vicious cycle.

How do you break the cycle you may ask? Each party shares in the responsibility of changing the direction of their marriage.

Ladies, make sure you let your request be known and be willing to give suggestions, assistance with sitters or reservations and your opinions. Don't just say, "Whatever you want to do is fine or whatever you get me will be great," if you don't mean it. Tell the truth. Husbands, please remember that there is more to dating than dinner and a movie. It involves romance.

What the heck is romance you may ask? Romance is defined by Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary as trying to obtain favor with someone especially through lavishing attention, gifts or flattery and to carry on a love affair. Now that sounds good to me!

Ok, but how can I romance my wife? Well I'm glad you asked. Here are a few suggestions to get you started:

Send cards in the mail to your wife that tell her how much you love her or to invite her out to lunch or on a date.

Find places to take your wife that involve getting dressed up then buy her a dress, a new pair of earrings or necklace to wear out on the date.

Compliment her daily on her appearance and tell her how much you love and miss her when you aren't together.

Bring flowers, her favorite candy or treat for no reason at all. I repeat, bring them for no other reason but to show her you were thinking of her.

Turn off the TV or the computer off and start moving your mouth. Women like to talk to their mate and share about their day and their future. I know that even though the stereotyped male is not supposed to talk - I find in most cases it's not true. They would just prefer to talk about themselves and their interests. Here we are talking about asking your wife about what she is thinking and talking about subjects that interest her.

Give her a call in the middle of the day just to say hi and to tell her that you are thinking about her.

Finally, thank her and commend her for all her efforts as the caretaker of you and your children and for the daily maintenance of your lives and home. This is especially needed if your wife is a stay at home mom. These women do not have the benefit of a boss to praise their work or to give them a raise.

These are just a few ideas and are great for anytime of the year. For other great ideas visit http://www.magicofromance.com/romantic/index.php, http://www.romanceforeveryone.com/romantic-ideas/, or google the words "romantic ideas." Now get to courting again and revitalize your nuptials.