Tips for Dealing with a Toddler's Temper Tantrum

Your toddler may be the most angelic child, but even they are likely to throw a temper tantrum, once in a while. Tantrums can be generally characterized by whining, crying, screaming, kicking, hitting, throwing toys, or holding of breath. It doesn't matter what sex your child is, boys and girls are just as equally likely to throw a tantrum. The usual age range of temper tantrums is between 1 to 3 years old. Some children may throw tantrums on a regular basis, where others may only have an episode once in a great while. Some kids are more likely to throw a tantrum than others.

Toddlers often use a tantrum to vent their frustration. We need to understand they are learning and absorbing so much on a daily basis. Sometimes they aren't able to do what they are trying to accomplish. A tantrum is a tool for them to express their frustration. Every parent can relate to the following basic causes of tantrums: They want attention, they are tired, they are hungry or thirsty, or they are uncomfortable. Also, as mentioned, a child may throw a tantrum just to let out frustration.

The most common age that tantrums arise is two years old. It is usually around this time, the toddler is learning to master the spoken language. It's during this time, that toddlers can understand a lot more than what they can verbally express. Therefore, they get frustrated and throw a tantrum. Generally speaking, as your toddler's ability to express themselves, verbally, increases the tantrums will decrease.

During this time, in your toddler's life, it is best to keep "forbidden fruit" out of sight. In other words, keep objects which they are not allowed to have out of reach and out of sight. By doing this, it will help to cut down on any potential tantrums. You can also use your toddler's short attention span to your advantage, by redirecting them. You can give them something else in place of the desired object or begin a new activity which will get their mind off of what they originally wanted.

It's also important to pick your battles with your toddler. If your toddler wants something, you have to ask yourself if it's an unacceptable request or not. It's best to find a balance between spoiling your toddler and obliging them to prevent a tantrum.

One of the biggest reasons for a tantrum is a lack of attention. Sometimes, they will throw a tantrum even if it means getting in trouble. The way the toddler sees it, even negative attention from you; you yelling at them or however you react to their tantrum, is better than no attention at all.

Make sure you give your toddler plenty of one on one interaction and play time. The best way to combat tantrums is to give them well deserved praise for their good behavior. They will soon become conditioned to the praise for good behavior. They will desire to make mommy and daddy happy and proud. Therefore, they will act nice and well behaved to get that special praise. Above all else, try and be patient with their tantrums. It's easy to forget they're facing some big challenges; and just like adults, they get frustrated too.