Tips for Getting in a Relationship with a Divorcee

I'm currently in the middle of a nasty divorce. So instead of getting mad with all the BS that is happening I decided to help out anyone else I could. This was all sparked by last week, when my ex decided to do a nasty 3 way phone conversation with his new girlfriend of 1 month. She was told that I kept calling him. Which was totally untrue! So I decided to write this for all the new relationships! This is mainly an article of advice for women that are getting with a man that is or has gone through a divorce. However men might find the questions to ask helpful as well if they are going to start dating someone that is divorced.

Below are my questions I think you should really find out before you give your heart away to the next gent. However he might be kind and sweet, what is he really like? People all to late find out the true nature of there mate. And before they know it they are in a relationship that devoured and lost there time and left them with little or nothing.

Remember 1st and fore most you need to find out everything you can about this person if you are wanting a serious relationship! Other wise you will be the one getting burned with wasted years and time. Come on people, treat this relationship better than you would a job! Your boss checks up on you and that is just for you to work with the company! What does that say about you if you do not care about your life enough to just to add a could be loser to your life.

Find out all you can about the questions I have posted below. It might just save your heart and everything else.

- Find out if he was a cheater! This maybe one of the hardest to find out, but the most important! Because once a cheater, always a cheater! And I mean it! You'll be lucky if your fellow to be tells you he cheated. Usually they do not go into it. Ask him if you can either call or email his exes. If he gets offended ask why? Usually that is a big sign he was a cheat. Remember don't go into a relationship thinking you can change him!

- Does he have Kids? And if so how does he treat them? A lot of women get into a relationship with the man having kids. Well how does he treat the kids? Does he even see them or care to see them? If he doesn't then how does this tell you he is going to be to you or your kids if you guys end up having some together? More than likely if he treats them like dirt or if he walked away from them, your just a step in his stone and he will easily walk away from you. You also need to know if he even pays child support! If he decides to quit his job and get married to you do you think you want to support his old family?

- Does he work? This is another great one! If he can't even work then how do you figure he will support you or a family if you choose to have one? I understand the job market can be hard to get a foot in the door, but excuse after excuse. C'mon!

- How long ago was it since the last relationship ended? If your in this just for fun, you need not worry. But if you are in this for a long term relationship or perhaps marriage then Girl you better think about this one! If he just broke up a couple of months ago and he's all over you and ready to take it serious, think about that one again! He is just using you for a rebound and if you don't want to be a number in his book then take a re look!

- Does he have any bad habits such as too much drug or alcohol usage? Another good one to see. Who wants a lazy drugged out fool wasting there time! Again like the cheating, if he has bad habits this you won't be able to change him of it. And there are usually only 2 kinds of drunks the lazy ones or the beat you up ones. Both are people I choose to stay away from.

- Does he have any mental issues? This is another question you might be able to get answered from an ex or his parents or family members. You most defiantly don't want to start a relationship with a depressed bipolar person that is not in the process of getting help! Usually these people with mental issues do not even know they have them. They are usually too clingy and attach there selves on anyone just so they will not be lonely.

Remember dating is crazy. And it gets even more crazier the more people added to the equation. (IE: Past exes or kids.) And you need to get the story from both sides if you are planning on having a lasting relationship. Remember there is usually is a divorce for a reason. And they need to be confronted this reason or you risk them doing a repeat with you.