Tips for Married Couples on Bringing Romantic Passion into the Bedroom

Interview with Psychotherapist Viviana Coles DMFT

Jaleh

For many married couples the romantic passion that existed at the beginning of marriage fades later on in years. For tips on how a married couple can bring the romantic passion back into the bedroom, I have interviewed psychotherapist Viviana Coles DMFT.

Tell me a little bit about yourself.

"I am a Doctor of Marriage and Family Therapy, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist in private practice in Houston, Texas. I've been practicing for 8 years and am happily married with children."

What often happens to the romantic passion for couples that have been married for a long time?

"Couples often report that the passion they had for one another and for sexual pleasure drastically decreases past the 1-year mark of their relationships. They often do not address the discrepancy until much later on in the relationship because "life" distracts them. Couples often come to me at the point in their relationship when "life" has settled down and they bring their focus back to their relationship and discover that they are in very different places emotionally and intimately."

What are some tips for married couples on bringing romantic passion into the bedroom?

"It's all about taking the time to make one another feel special and desired. Each couple has its own "passion style" and it's up to each person to find out what each spouse is looking for as far as pleasure and fulfillment. Oftentimes, spouses erroneously assume that the same thing that worked for their spouse at the beginning of their relationship is what gives them pleasure and fulfillment much later on. It's important to communicate openly about what psychologically and physically turns them on now. I would also recommend offering positive feedback when trying new things in the bedroom."

What type of professional help is available for married couples that are having a difficult time bringing the romantic passion back into the bedroom?

"Licensed professionals are in every area of the world, but it is sometimes difficult to find a qualified Certified Sex Therapist because most states permit any mental health professional to practice sex therapy without having completed any more than the required 3-6 hour course in Human and Gender Sexuality. A Certified Sex Therapist has to complete a much more rigorous and involved process. You can rest assured that a Certified Sex Therapist has experience to help couples and individuals with their sexual issues. Many couples and individuals are shy about talking about their sexual issues at first, but within that first session they realize that they are dealing with a professional who is there to help."

Where can people contact you if they need professional help?

"My office offers both in-person and telephone therapy sessions for couples and individuals looking to improve their sex lives. They are welcome to check out my website at www.DontPostponeJoy.net from the privacy of their own homes."

Thank you Viviana for doing the interview on tips for married couples on bringing the romantic passion into the bedroom.

Recommended Readings:

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/5644514/increasing_your_sexual_activity_in.html?cat=5">Increasing Your Sexual Activity in Marriage

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/119410/how_to_put_the_sizzle_back_in_your.html?cat=74">How to Put the Sizzle Back in Your Marriage

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2859838/how_to_deal_with_an_annoying_husband.html?cat=72">How to Deal with Annoying Husband

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JALEH holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and a Masters of Science in Marriage and Family Counseling. She is the book author of Making Marriage a Success and Life's Little How to Book which can be...  View profile

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