Tips for Pampering Your Best Girlfriend After a Divorce

Dr. Jamie Yvette
If your best girlfriend just went through a painful divorce, your first inclination might not be to pamper her, but rather to make a quick love connection by finding an eligible bachelor to sweep her off her feet. Although such a gesture is a sincere reflection of your love for your friend, she will most likely need a little time and plenty of TLC before she is ready to start dating again. You can help provide some of that TLC by pampering her as a reminder of just how special she is to those who love her.

Pamper Her with the VIP Treatment

Even if your best girlfriend conducts herself like Superwoman, she could probably use some help right about now. Divorce is both costly and time consuming and after having gone through such an ordeal, she may be running on empty - regardless of how she appears to the outside world. A little pampering may be in order before she is ready to officially bounce back and embrace life as a single woman.

Pamper your best girlfriend by coordinating with a group of friends or family members to relieve her of routine chores for a day or even a weekend. Assemble a clean-up crew to get her house spic and span. Stock her fridge with groceries (if she's your best friend, you probably already know what she likes to eat). If she has small children, offer to keep them for a day or weekend. You can even cook a special meal for her.

You may be thinking, "My friend won't let anybody do anything nice like this for her!" Don't take "no" for an answer! She may protest your efforts to pamper her at first - especially if she is used to sacrificing her own needs to take care of everyone else - but most likely she will appreciate your thoughtfulness and assistance in the end.

Pamper Her with Soothing Stress Busters

Has stress become your best girlfriend's middle name since her divorce? If so, you can help take her mind off her troubles with a few stress relievers. Consider pampering her with an aromatherapy gift basket. For convenience, you can order such an aromatherapy gift basket online. Begin with a simple Google search to find the perfect basket for your girlfriend. Some popular websites for ordering such baskets include Amazon, Blissful Balance and Green Woman Herbs.

If you're afraid that your gift basket will simply become a permanent part of your best girlfriend's bathroom décor instead of being utilized to the fullest extent, you can pamper her by planning a trip to a relaxing spa. This will enable you to receive a little pampering yourself! You can visit a local spa together or plan an exciting getaway for two. Numerous spa vacation packages can be found on the Internet by visiting websites such as Getaway Spas.

Keep in mind that your girlfriend may not even realize the extent of her stress or feel a need to be pampered. However, if she has been experiencing uncharacteristic mood swings, unexplained headaches or other body aches, or a dramatic increase or decrease in her appetite or major changes in her sleeping pattern, it is very possible that she could be under a great deal of stress.

Pamper Her with a Makeover and Glamour Photo Shoot

While divorce marks the end of a marriage, it can also mark the beginning of a wonderful new phase in life. However, developing the courage to meet this new phase head-on will require self-confidence. Help your best girlfriend get the pep back in her step by pampering her with a trip to a local beauty salon. A flattering new hairdo, manicure and pedicure may be just what she needs in order to feel ready to conquer the world.

Once she has achieved her wonderful new look, why not capture it on camera? Keep the pampering going by treating your girlfriend to a photo shoot. If you want to save time and money, you can skip the salon trip and head straight to a Glamour Shots portrait studio, where she can have her hair and makeup done and then be photographed like a celebrity!

Have Fun Pampering Her and Do It with a Smile!

The more fun you can have pampering your best girlfriend, the better. If she thinks that you are pampering her out of a sense of obligation, or that the whole process is stressful for you, you will have entirely defeated the purpose! The goal should be not only to give from your heart, but also to feel good in knowing that you have in some way helped your best girlfriend start this new phase of life on a positive note. While tangible gifts and fun-filled getaways are fantastic, nothing can outweigh the value of true friendship.

Published by Dr. Jamie Yvette - Featured Education Contributor

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  • Magena Fawn5/18/2009

    What great ideas to help a close friend who is going through a divorce. We can choose to see a divorce as a wonderful new phase in life. Excellent advice!

  • Kay Whittenhauer4/25/2009

    What a great article! I have a friend who's going through this and I've been through it myself... having good friends is so important.

  • Julia Bodeeb4/20/2009

    Excellent advice. Seen more than I want to in recent years about how nasty some friends' divorces are....they do need pampering indeed.

  • Sophie4/19/2009

    These are such thoughtful suggestions, Jamie!
    Sophie

  • Charles B Reynolds4/9/2009

    Excellent suggestions. Maybe if the victims of this tragedy were made to feel special and not like a pariah, the whole healing thing wold happen sooner.

  • C-Love4/8/2009

    All great tips!

  • Momie Tullottes4/8/2009

    Excellent advice! You are an awesome friend. :-)

  • Cathy A Montville4/8/2009

    Hi Jamie...I love how you state divorce can also be a new stage in one's life! It truly is...after the rough stuff of course! Excellent subject and fine tips! :)

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