Tips for Parents Dealing with Sibling Rivalry

"Mom, his Ice cream is better than mine."
"Dad, sis is not returning my pen she took 10 minutes before".
"I want that chocolate first. I want that chocolate first".
Sounds familiar? These and other hundreds of words you may already have faced if you are having two or more kids.
In houses with more than one kid, there is bound to have some problems within them. "Sibling" means brother or sister. These may be due to gender bias, sex or age differentiation or may it simply be without any obvious reason.
It is seen that sibling rivalry starts even before the next bay is about to see Mother Nature's light and continues accordingly the children grew up. As time goes by, the children attain their various stages of development, they relate to each other according to their necessities. There comes jealousy. It is often because they have to share their most common want: their parents. Moreover, if the parents discriminate in between, it only adds fuel to the fire.

Other common factors are:

Hierarchy: the older sibling may think that he/she is overburdened with responsibilities; or the younger one tries to catch up in vain.
Gender: male offspring thinks that dad is too gentle with his sister for the same mistake whereas, girl thinks that responsibilities that are more genuine are given to her brother.

Sometimes it is really frustrating to cope with the sibling rivalry. However, if we follow these few points, we may have a possibility to overcome the situation.

If possible, do not interfere in between fighting children. Only if you guess physical harm. If you always intervene, the kids expect to be rescued. And if you rescue one child with no obvious reason, the other may feel insecure and wait for his/her turn. So if you really want to get involved, please do so cautiously, rationally.

Do not ever try compare between them. Each sibling does have a feel that he is only one of its kinds. And he/she has every right to think so. Even we sometimes feel like this. Instead of comparison, fix the target of each of the children according to their merit. Just guide him towards achieving success.

Do not underrate your child's anger. Contrary to that, let it evaporate. Nurtured anger is far more aggravating than having a quarrel.
Teach them to have mutual respect. Even the elder one should mind to pay respect to the younger. Malicious comments to each other must be avoided not only in front of the outsiders, but also in front of the other sibling. You may give the child a lesson- but not in front of other one.

If the children are small, you may create a "win-win" situation. Give both of them exactly what they want. Alternatively, the same thing for both.
Set some basic rules for standard behavior. Implore their activities according to it. Also the consequences up on breaking them. Thus, they will differ from "right" and "wrong".

Help yourself to help your child one-to-one. Means give solo accompany to their activities.

Appreciate to each of their good work in front of the other, so that he may crave for doing so.

Live like a family in totality. Have fun with all of the members.

Do not hesitate to get professional help from a qualified counselor or a doctor in case the sibling rivalry creates so many problems that it hampers your day-to-
day activities.