Tips for Single Women on Finding Love

Are you a single woman that is having trouble finding love? Are you unsure on why it's difficult for you to find love? To help understand common mistakes women make when finding love and for tips on finding love, I have interviewed therapist Lisa Marchiano, LCSW.

Tell me a little bit about yourself.
"I am a Jungian analyst in private practice in Philadelphia. As a Jungian, I believe that most people seeking therapy are doing so because they are attempting to grow and find wholeness and fulfillment, but are feeling thwarted for some reason. A therapist can help listen for what might be blocking a person."

What are common mistakes that single women make when finding love?
"When a woman (or man, for that matter) is having difficulty finding a life partner , it probably isn't because that person is making a mistake, but rather that she is replaying old patterns, perhaps as a way of working through old wounds. It may be that we had a difficult relationship with one or both parents, which lead us to doubt our lovableness at a deep level. Without even realizing it, we may have become an expert at finding the person who will treat us just like our mom or dad did. Often, we don't recognize this at first, because in some important ways, the people we wind up with are in fact very different from that parent with whom we had a painful relationship.

I worked with one young woman whose father had been emotionally distant, and had also preferred my patient's sister. In her adult relationships, she tended to wind up with men who were very emotionally expressive, unlike her father. But after dating these men for a while, she would find that, like her father, they had something or someone who mattered more to them than she did.

The good news is that we do learn from every relationship that we are in. I really love the movie ' Groundhog Day ,' because I think it does portray something that is psychologically accurate. Like Bill Murray , we all keep repeating the same mistakes -- but we do get a little more of it right each time. For many people, if you look back at a string of relationships -- even if they were all miserable failures -- you might find that each was slightly better than the one that went before."

What are some tips for single women on finding love?
"A depth psychological approach can help speed up the process of working through these obstacles. While many of us know intellectually where we may have been wounded, the situation often can't really transform until we truly have full access to all of the feelings around these wounds. Journaling can help, as can working with one's dreams with a trained therapist, as dreams often hold important clues to what may be holding us back."

Thank you Lisa for doing the interview on tips for single women on finding love. For more information on Lisa Marchiano or her work you can check out her website on www.lisamarchiano.com .

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