Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

Do you want to write your own vows, but don't think you can. Are you giving up based on the fact that you don't know how to put your feelings into words. Don't give up hope, yet. Here are some tips to writing your vows and adding your own style.

The first thing you have to remind yourself, is that the reason for writing your own vows is to add a little of your personality to the ceremony. You shouldn't pick expressions and phrases based solely on the fact that they are what you would hear in a normal wedding ceremony. The point is to be original so that you can make this special day something you and your partner will remember until death do you part. Sometimes it may seem as though the ceremony belongs to your family, but keep in mind that the only people who matter in this situation is the bride and groom. If you two enjoy the ceremony, than it has accomplished its goal.

As for the writing, you need to simply your way of thinking. Vows are basically your promises to each other for the future. As such, you are simply telling that person what you promise to do, feel, or be in the future of this marriage. For example: I promise to love you for the rest of my life. You can put your own spin on things and be as formal or informal in your promises as you would like to be. You can be humorous, or poetic and that is where your style comes in to play. For example, you can say, "I promise to love you before, during and after children." Or you can be less formal such as, "I promise to love you as long as the sun shines like the fire in your eyes." The mood is totally up to you, which can be liberating to a more non-traditional couple.

There are different kinds of promises to make and it is best to mix them up a bit. As stated above you are basically promising to do, feel, or be. "I promise to love you for eternity," is an example of feel. "I promise to take the garbage out every night," is an example of do. The following is an example of be, "I promise to be a faithful, loving husband." The key to keeping it fresh is to mix in a couple of each. Remember that you decide what an acceptable promise is.

Now, if you want to take this opportunity to really get in depth with your feelings, you can also use add-ons. After saying your promise, feel free to elaborate. This is your day and you can really say as much as you want. Focus on your partner because that is who you are speaking to, everyone else is merely decoration. The promise is only a formatting suggestion to help those of us who are not as poetic. If you want to change the way you say it, you have the option.

One thing that will help is to write it down on paper. There really is no need to memorize, unless holding a piece of paper really bothers you that much. In any case remember that you can change the words any way you want to once you have started. This isn't a script and you don't have to follow words on a paper. Instead, follow your heart.

It would be nice if all of us were Shakespeares, but we all have our strengths. If your strength isn't writing, you shouldn't let that stop you from expressing yourself in your wedding vows. Everyone has a personality, and feelings. If you use my method, that is all that is required.