To Find Mr. Right You Need to Stop Looking for Mr. Perfect

If you're like most single women you're on a quest to find Mr. Right. That seemingly elusive man who's perfect for you. One obstacle to finding Mr. Right is the idea of Mr. Perfect.

So who is Mr. Perfect? He's the image of the perfect man for you that you carry in your mind. Perfect height, perfect looks, the right income, career and personality. Everything that you want a man to be. But the problem with Mr. Perfect is that in the real world he probably doesn't exist. No one's perfect, some people can pretend to be, but in the long run we find that everybody has their faults. So in order to find your Mr. Right you need to get rid of the idea of Mr.Perfect and focus on the qualities and traits that are really important to you. When you do that you may find that Mr. Right is already in your life.

One way to get rid of Mr. Perfect is to narrow down your deal-breaker list to the things that are really important to you. If you met your Mr. Right and he was 2 inches shorter than you, 20 pounds too heavy, had a very time consuming career or was balding, would you not date him because of these characteristics. If you're willing to make an exception on a quality or characteristic than it's not a deal-breaker it's an option. If you meet a man that has some of the qualities on your deal-maker list - successful, family oriented, likes to travel but he works long hours and is divorced would you give up on him before you get to know him. Hopefully not.

Mr. Perfect will constantly nudge his way into your mind when you're looking for Mr. Right. But a search for perfection is not only keeping many women single, but allowing some great men to slip through their fingers to fall into the lap of a woman who knows what she wants. Mr. Right can be the man you've dated but didn't think of having a permanent relationship with because you were looking for something better. The man your friends keep trying to set you up with. Your neighbor. Your best friend. Your co-worker. Any of them could be Mr. Right, but first you need to stop comparing them to Mr. Perfect.

As long as Mr. Perfect is in your life you'll have a hard time finding Mr. Right. So, if you want to find Mr. Right first figure out what's really important to you. Keep the list small. Then start looking around at the men you already know. How many of them would be perfect for you. You never know, Mr. Right may already be in your life, waiting for you to find him.