Today's Fashion Tip: Girls Are Being Dressed Too Sexy Too Soon!

I can remember having many conversations with my oldest daughter "Little" regarding her attire. I smile just thinking about how she used to try her very best to persuade me to let her have more control over the type of clothing she could wear; . "C'mon Dad!, " she would say," there is nothing wrong with this skirt!" "You're right," I would reply, "there is nothing wrong with the skirt, but there is something wrong if you think you are going out of the house with that skirt on!"

Before leaving the house for school or anywhere, there was skirt length, cleavage check, and even a tightness check

It was a constant battle back then. She swore that I was being a tyrant, but I didn't care too much. I had no intention or desire to send my daughter out among ravenous wolves adorned like a juicy steak. These days however I find it hard to keep from laughing when I talk to Little, (who's now 26 years old,) on the phone, and hear her telling me of conversations she's had with her younger cousins and some of the young girls she mentors. I guess it took a while but the message has begun sinking in.

Back when Little was a teenager, my wife and I seemed to be the weirdos. We actually took interest in how our daughter was dressing, and we gave less than a care what every one else was wearing. Our daughter knew that using the "everyone else is__________" phrase would always fall upon deaf ears where my wife and I were concerned; however these days it would seem that every one is taking their fashion cues from the media, and what "everyone else" is doing.. More and more I have been seeing younger and younger girls being dressed in provocative and sexy clothing.

It's natural for young kids to want to look and act older, that's just a part of growing up. However our current fashion trends have young kids wanting to dress and look like the sexy celebrities they see and emulate. To make matters worse, there are plenty of people who see that there is big financial gain in providing these way too risque fashions for young girls.

In no way whatsoever do I find sexy or revealing attire on a young girl cute, and I don't think that I am the only adult who feels this way. What's the big deal you may ask, the big deal is that these young girls are being over sexualized! It should be common sense that dressing sexy leads to acting sexy. I would go as far to say that dressing young girls up in sexy attire (extremely short skirts, revealing attire) is the equivalent of giving a young kid a gun, neither of them truly understands the responsibility that comes along with it.

Out of curiosity I posed this topic as a a question on Yahoo Answers to see if I was the only person who felt that we are dressing young girls too sexy too soon. I expected that people close to my age range would think so, but I was surprised to hear from a few teenagers, who felt that a line was being crossed with some of the revealing fashions being worn by young girls these days.

Here are some of the responses I received:

Response 1:

Yes! I'm 15 and I don't dress too sexy. Because if I did, it might bring older men to thinking about some nasty and inappropriate stuff and for the boys my age ... well, I try to spare them their, um, "thoughts" about stuff that they're just learning to control. I find it extremely annoying how all the clothes for my age are skin-tight and showy. I'm constantly layering things or wearing little jackets over things for the sake of covering up. Then if I try to find something that's not skin-tight, it looks like I'm wearing grandma clothes! Bathing suits are the worst though. Bikinis have the cute style, tankinis have the cut I want. Meaning, I can never find a cute takini with a non-bikini bottom and showy top. My brother (5 at the time I think) was with us looking for bathing suits and he said, "is that underwear?" he said it so innocently and it was funny. But it's also sad that when we go swimming, it's suddenly ok to wear "underwear" well, in the pool. So my bottom line is: I'm extremely frustrated by the clothing out there.

Response 2:

YESSSSSSSSSSSS
girls are dressing way to old
but what choice do they have when company's make them in their sizes and parents dont put a stop to it.

i also see adult women dress way to sexy.
i pick my son up from school and these moms and daughter look like they are on their way to work a brothel

Response #3:

I agree, we are. The media is also to blame. It frustrates me that little girls are worried about being "hot" when they should just be having fun and enjoying themselves and their childhood.

Kids should just be kids! Little girls shouldn't be wearing adult clothes, for example really short shorts and skirts, tube tops, 2piece swimsuits, anything revealing. It creeps me out when I see a 10 yr old wearing daisy dukes and a tubetop with eyeshadow and lipstick to boot. Things like that give me night mares about how it is going to be when I have kids and what my little girls and myself will have to go through. When the time comes I don't want my kids to hate me for doing what is best for them, simply because I won't let them dress sexy like all the other girls. I know I will be doing the right thing but it would be great if I could just avoid that argument all together. I am hoping that my parenting skills will teach them better than that to begin with so the argument can be avoided because that is one subject that I will not budge on.

Here's what puzzles me, when you learn how to drive they say that you have to learn how to drive defensively, meaning that you might be comfortable with your skill and ability as a driver, but you have to drive with others drivers in mind, who may not be as skilled. Shouldn't our fashion trends follow along similar lines, especially where our young girls are concerned? Shouldn't there also be a defensive dressing approach?

I'm all for people looking and feeling good, and I don't think that young ladies need to hide behind hideous over-sized granny type dresses, but I do think that suggestive and revealing clothing should be off limits until they are old enough to know what goes along with wearing that type of clothing. (There are still quite a few older people who haven't figured this one out yet.) Maybe I really am getting old and out of touch and maybe it's really not a big deal.

I'll leave you with this; from the male perspective, there is an unwritten, unspoken law regarding females. Most young guys and even a lot of older males operate under this law, many are even unaware of it, but this law has great influence over the way they treat and interact with the females around them. In fact there are a lot of girls/women who haven't quite figured out why males tend to treat them with little respect (Not all the time but often it is because of this law.)

It is a simple law that states:

"Whatever she shows (reveals)...She is willing to share!"

So you've heard my take, what do you think, "Are we Dressing Young Girls Too Sexy Too Soon?"