Today's Woman - Can You Deal with Her?

Today's woman is seeking to distance herself from the normal gender role she is expected to follow, the just like mother role, the woman as model homemaker character. No longer do they wish to be subjected to the "marriage means loosing your freedom to a man" stigma. Today's woman values her sexual freedom and expects you to be aware of this. This becomes very evident when you encounter this woman out on the town, all societal rules are cast aside, and she lets it all hang out. Can you deal with that? Do you find this new woman intimidating or exciting?

Are you able to quash the old long established stereotypes and allow her to become the sexual aggressor? Let her take on the active role, doing the things men usually do, including sexualizing and trivializing you guys? To do so will stimulate and arouse her. Learning to capitalize on her sexual confidence is a great way to get her to lower her inhibitions.

Feeling less inhibited because of her newly established open mindedness, she may feel more sexually free in certain contexts and environments. You can make this work for you if you handle it right. If the environmental stimulus is safe and correct, it could bring out her more impulsive side. When you notice she has reached that level, creative suggestions can go a long way towards ending the night on a high note.

A contributor of her "out on the town courage" is due in part to the support of the "girl team" that is accompanying her this night. Women travel in groups and rarely alone. Her relationships with her friends is as important to her as a guy's relationship with his friends is to him. This should never be trivialized. If you are already in a relationship, encourage your partner to participate in girls' night out with her friends. A benefit of this for you is that you will probably notice that she will be much friskier than usually at the end of a girls' night out.

One thing to remember throughout this new woman encounter is that she knows her limits and is well aware of where she is and what she is doing. That will allow her to prevent her excess from becoming excessive and if she should happen to forget herself, her friends will protect her. On a reassuring note, know that your partner's friends will provide equal protection for her during her girls' night out also, if you have earned their trust.

This new woman is not necessarily a party girl, she is just out to have a good time, and in doing so, she is displaying her most honest characterization, individuality, and uniqueness. She is just having fun being her total self. Are you the right guy to be her friend that night? Can you be?

Resource: Emotional Fitness for Couples by Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D