Tom Cruise Has a Secret

Tom has a secret. It is a secret he's been hiding for most of his career. A secret he is desperately trying to keep but failing so miserably. With every appearance a little more is told. Over the past year or so I have developed an obsession with the whole TomKat dilemma like so many other Americans. My obsession has little to do with their love affair or even them having a beautiful baby girl but with Tom's behavior. Sure he's displayed some wacky often over the top behavior for the past year but what I find most interesting is his new willingness to share his true self, the person he is when no one else is around. His actions or shall I say acting like the perfect man only exposes how much he really isn't.

When I talk with friends about Tom Cruise they almost always bring up his appearance on Oprah the only thing they mention however is his trampoline stunt. I saw that same show and that is ultimately where my obsession began I saw how excited he was about his new lady but I also so what no one else seems to have caught. When Tom went behind the scenes to fetch his girlfriend Katie she politely told him she wasn't ready for the camera. He reached out and grabbed her arm where she playfully pleaded for him not to. He stood behind her as a police often does a perpetrator and grabbed her by her forearms and pushed her onto the stage where Katie resisted. I guess it caught my attention because I've never seen him act so forceful or maybe because he reminded me of an ex-boyfriend. Whatever it was it tweaked my interest and perked my ears.

All you have to do is turn on the television to see the latest news about Tom and Katie who we are now to call Kate. Her isolation from family and friends, her silent birth (Tom's suggestion) Her scientology guides following her every move. He's in control and there is no mistake about it. He controls her everything, her friends, her residence, her career, he even controls her award nominations. She wants a small family oriented wedding but he wants a big glamorous showdown and of course he always wins but why?

I recently read the article on Tom Cruise's interview where he talked about his father's abusive tendencies; he said something that exposed more of his secret. He told the reporter that he saw his father lure people in get them to trust him and then bam turn on them. Everything became so clear just then. Tom was trying to run from the man his father was. He kept looking back at his father's image just to run right into him. He is his father but worst because he is convinced that he isn't. Tom's big secret isn't that he's Mr. Romantic or even Mr. Nice guy but that he's Mr. Controller, Mr. Abusive. Most of all he's Mr. Actor. When the camera's role he is smiling, friendly approachable Mr. Cruise but once the show is over he is demented and out of control. The sad truth to Tom's secret is that it is still a secret to him. He thinks he has the world fooled by his show of love and admiration for a woman he hardly knows but his actions leave him open and exposed. I often wonder if Tom's new freedom to "be himself" had to do with him not wanting to act like he was perfect. A little piece of him that wanted to be exposed so someone could call him on his behavior. To bad Kate didn't listen close enough to his secret.