Too Tall to Date a Shorter Man?
When asking a few of my random friends if they believed and lived by some sort of height standard, the results were half and half. Some of them said they absolutely would not date anyone shorter than them, and the others said that height doesn't matter as much to them as other qualities. One friend said that anytime she goes to parties, she won't get asked to dance. Being the type that doesn't consider height as a determining factor in being interested in someone, she didn't realize why she wasn't asked to dance. Finally, a man approached her and led her out on the dance floor. They talked for hours and their height difference, which was five inches, came into the conversation. He relayed to her that most men felt inferior and wouldn't approach a taller woman, and my friend couldn't believe her ears. She never knew that her height was keeping her from finding that someone special.
Understandably, being overlooked because of your height can be frustrating, but there is an upside. A man that isn't afraid to approach a taller woman tends to be a great catch. The reason being that many shorter men are also overlooked by many women just because they're not as tall as the standard height women look for. This leads these men to develop other, more meaningful qualities like kindness, compassion and a great sense of humor.
Of course, there is always the underlying perception that has been instilled in us to believe the man should be taller because he is the protector. Many women lose out on a great man because they can't get past the notion that the man should be taller, and they pass many up just to try and find one that is.
If you are willing to and do date shorter men, be aware that there will be obstacles to overcome. Walking hand in hand with a man that is shy a few inches is sure to get some odd looks from others. One solution to consider is wearing flat shoes instead of heels that only make the height difference more drastic. Another solution is to forget what people think. Eventually, you'll find that the old saying, "I'm rubber, you're glue, whatever you say bounces back to you," is true. Women over time develop a barrier that keeps the thoughts of others out. If you find a great man that is shorter than you, being happy should be the most important factor, not height. Not caring about whether or not people make comments or point at you on the street will only make your relationship stronger, because whatever doesn't kill ya makes you stronger. So, next time you see a cute, shorter guy standing in the corner, remember it may be worth it to start up a conversation instead of passing him by. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you never know what you may be passing up.
Published by Stephanie Slaughter
Stephanie Slaughter, a freelance writer for more than five years, primarily writes about health and family, sharing what she learns from personal, medical and life experience. Slaughter attended South Plains... View profile
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Post a CommentThe article forgot to mention a heaping dose of jealousy so that we don't get robbed of our 6' goddesses by the first basketball player to come around.
Jilita and Marie Anne are heightists. Both seem very insecure, especially if 6'1 is the magic number for Jilita. Marie Anne's comments I find more disturbing because she's uncomfortable seeing extreme differences in height between other couples? Marie Anne, you should worry about yourself and stop labelling tall and short couples as a parent with a child. That's just offensive, disrespectful and immature. Who gives you the right to judge my manhood on the basis of the height of the woman standing next to me? There is nothing positive or redeeming about your attitude. Ever think what's odd to you maybe unique and special to someone else?
Hello all,
Thank you for the comments, I'm the author of this article. I thought this topic was important because I've seen this scenario play out many times. When I say that you might not know what you're passing up, I'm serious and I know from experience. My husband is 5'5" and I'm 5'8". There have been comments, even from him, but I'm perfectly fine with it and others should be too. Good luck to all of you!
Stephanie
It just shows how many women are so close minded and shallow but yet it's all ok for women to think that men should have to date heaver women. Women have to learn to get over themselves and look at other options in the 5' range like 5'9" 5'10". Women these days are so pigeon holed and think 6' and taller men are the only option. It also amazes me from an online dating perspective how many women are so dead set on thieir man to have to be a absoltue MUST 6' feet or more and actually they would rather have their man be like 7'8". Ask yourself this question would you rather have more pickings or have very few? There are not that many men in the really tall 6' and 7' feet range there are so many more men in the 5' range and not in the 5' short range but in the 5'9" 5'10" range.
I dont think that a woman is too tall to date a short guy.Where does it say in a rule book that it shouldnt happen.If a tall woman feels comfortable then let them.I mean it is no different to a short woman wanting to date a tall guy.What is the difference.I will tell you because people expect short guys to not be in the dating pool.I mean some short guys are very sensitive and have g.s.o.h.I am 5'0 and a fully grown adult my husband is 5'4.When we go out i can still wear heels and be abit shorter than him.I mean there is nothing better than to look into a guys eyes or in my case his face.Cause he has a couple of inches on me.But i can still nestle my head near to his shoulder.I was never gonna date a guy who was over 6'0 i did have plenty of offers.I did date a guy who was 6'4 i could only take it for 6 months.It was just too stupid i was like way down here and he was up to far.I think i was near to his chest it felt very uncomfortable after that i decided on a short guy that would be
I dont mind being a short man it makes me stand out in a crowd.I am now 55 years old and barely 4'10.I did however use to be 4'11 but i think i have shrunk abit now.My wife is absolutely wonderful for putting up with me she is 5'6 and she has never let my height or lack of it put her off.I have my own business and inexcess of 60 staff.I would never dream of dating a short woman like myself.Otherwise we would have had short children.We do have a daughter who is 23 and she is 5'7 lucky for her she got her mums height.Our son on the other hand got my height he is 22 and he is a little over 5'0.While they were both growing up Matthew was forever asking me question about being short i always explainned that it is always best to accept who you are.They were both similar in height until Wendy was 12 that is when she started growing she was 4'10 at that age till she was 16 she topped out at 5'7.Matthew was for some reason struggling to catch up with her.At first we put it down to boys growing
I like to believe that if a guy is tall he should try to find a tall woman.It looks ridicculously funny seeing a guy over 6'0 with a woman a little over 5'0.It seems like a dad taking his daughter out it looks unreal.I understand that people have to be short and tall it is all to do with genetics but come on.What is wrong with a short guy dating someone he prefers.They get enough stick without short woman wanting to dump on them has well.I mean it must be inconvenient for a tall guy to try to kiss a short woman.I mean he would look pretty stupid if he was on his knees and she was his height then hey.Come on get a grip on life.
I'm 5-8 and I am absolutely positive this has nothing to do with my height requirement in a man. The perfect height for
a man for me is 6-2. The height range requirement is just over six feet to 6-4. Anything over 6-4 is too tall. I'm convinced that if I were
6-1 myself, I would not raise my height requirement. If I were 6-2, still, a man 6-6 would be too tall. If I were 5-3, he'd still have to be at least six feet one half inch.