Top 10 Dating Mistakes Men Make - a Personal Experience

Men are often very surprised when the girl refuses a second date. You thought things were going well, what happened? Well, you've probably made one or more of the following dating mistakes:

1. A bad choice of clothing makes a bad impression. This is a dating mistake men can do something about before they turn up for the date. Wear neat flattering clothes. If you are carrying a bit of weight, conceal it with dark slightly larger clothes. A muffin top over tight pants, or a shirt bursting at the seams with chest hair sticking out, is not a good look. Wrinkled, sweat stained clothing is a sign that you're a slob and not willing to make the effort for her.

2. Shoes say a lot about the man. Selecting the wrong kind could be a big dating mistake for a man. Here is an article on the subject.

3. Another big dating mistake men make is wearing too much perfume or aftershave. Despite what glossy magazines tell you, wearing buckets of perfume, no matter how expensive, does not make you more desirable. Perfume should be something intimate that only someone leaning in very close could smell. Too much perfume can be nauseating, much like waking up with your face in kitty litter (don't ask me how I know).

4. Having a bad breath can be a really big dating mistake men make. A combination of coffee and cigarette breath is the ultimate turn off. Brush, floss, gargle, eat parsley, do whatever it takes to mask this, or you have no hope. Do not eat onion or garlic on the day of your date. It's very difficult to mask the smell of these two herbs. Check your teeth in the car rear-view mirror. Smiling with something green stuck between your teeth is not a good look.

5. Not turning up on time, or in some cases not turning up at all, rates very highly as a big dating mistake. Have the courtesy to ring if you're going to be more than 10 minutes late or if there is an emergency.

6. Now that you've turned up your next dating mistake is likely to be the handshake. How do you feel shaking a limp limb or a bone crusher? A weak handshake is a sign of no confidence. It makes a very bad first impression, especially if you also have to shake hands with her parents and siblings. They will all conclude that you are a wet blanket with no prospects. A bone crushing handshake is a sign of aggression. So aim for a firm one.

7. Your next dating mistake is likely to be the peck on the cheek. Most men never check whether it is culturally appropriate to do this. Do some research beforehand on where her family is from. If a peck on the cheek is acceptable, try not to slobber and smudge her makeup that she just spent two hours putting on.

8. Chewing gum while talking is another big dating mistake men make. Not only do you look like a cow, but excessive gum chewing causes wind. You're swallowing a lot of air and it has to go somewhere.

9. Once the date is well and truly on the way, the biggest dating mistakes a man can make here is talking too much about themselves. Talking about yourself, your ex girlfriends, your hobbies etc. is OK in small doses. However, remember that when your lips are moving, you're not learning anything about her.

10. Conversely there are men who don't want to do any talking or listening. This is another big dating mistake men make. Their plan for the date is very clearly to get to second base. This is fine if mutually agreed upon, but a real turn off if not.