Top 10 Reasons No One is Coming to Your Wedding

Learning from others mistakes is a huge lesson in life. Knowing what motivates a guest to say no to a wedding invitation can help you plan accordingly. There are common mistakes in wedding planning that make guests feel uncomfortable, and RSVP with a big fat "no." Here is a look at the top 10 reasons guests say no and stay at home to watch Buffy reruns.

10. You Didn't Send A Save The Date. True these cards are a fairly new trend in wedding planning, and you thought you could forgo them. The honest truth is, we're in a time when people have never been busier. Save the dates may be new, but they are considered common courtesy with the busy lives everyone leads now. If you didn't send one out- expect that some of your guests will be saying thanks but no thanks to your wedding invite. They already are going to your cousin's sister's best friend's wedding. She sent a Save The Date.

9. You Only Registered At Tiffany's. Ok, so maybe not Tiffany's specifically, but it's the general idea. If you're only registered at the most expensive place in town it sends a greedy "gift grabby" vibe. Guests are usually happy to bring a gift to a wedding, but registering only for the most expensive things is a huge put off. When you are registering for gifts, consider all budgets and price ranges. If you skip this advice, guests will skip your wedding.

8. Your Invitation Sent The Wrong Message. Your wedding as a whole should represent who you are as a couple, including your invitations. Wedding invitations are the first experience your guests will have with your wedding so choosing the right one is important. If your wedding is going to be a low key affair, don't send out invitations that look stuffy. The same goes for a formal affair so choose appropriately. If your guests were expecting low key and your invitation says something else, they may choose to say no.

7. Your Wedding Is Too Far Away. So you and your fiancee moved to some small town in the middle of nowhere 10 months before your wedding. No matter the reason for your move, you need to consider where your wedding will be. If you are now living far away from all of your friends, and family, seriously think about having your wedding back home. If your guests have to travel a huge distance they may opt not to make the trip.

6. You Didn't Reserve Hotel Rooms. Moving your wedding to a central location will not avoid all out of town guests, so you have to make plans for this as well. Reserve blocks of hotel rooms several months in advance. Once your invitations are out it's too late. Auntie Ida is already calling and finding out you didn't reserve a room block, and all the rooms are gone. If your guests can't get a hotel room, they will be forced to stay home.

5. You Said "Adults Only" On Your Invitation. While most guests may understand your desire to skip the rambunctious children's table at your wedding, it may also prevent them from coming. Baby sitters are expensive, and that's another added cost to coming to your wedding. Ultimately it's up to you whether or not you want children at your wedding, but printing it on the invitation is a for sure decline for some families. Consider leaving that part out of your invitation and instead making some fun activities for the kids. If they are coloring in a wedding coloring book it's hard to get punch stains on the bride's dress.

4. Your Invitation Says "Black Tie Only." You can't tell other adults how to dress. Period. Even if your Uncle Freddie wants to wear a bright orange jumpsuit. Putting a dress requirement in your invitation makes you seem conceited. If your wedding is going to be dressier than a normal wedding, it's best to have your family spread your wishes by word of mouth- and only if your guests ask.

3. You Invited Guests You Knew Would Say No. This one doesn't really need an explanation. Either you invited them out of guilt, or greed, but either way you expected and got a resounding "no."

2. You Misspelled Someone's Name On The Invitation. Cousin Aimee really isn't going to appreciate an invitation to Amy, is she? This one may seem silly but it happens. If you are even the tiniest bit unsure about how to spell someone's first or last name, call someone and ask. (NOT the person you are trying to address the invitation to.) With this rule in mind, also call and ask who their "guest" will be so you can avoid Amy and Guest showing up on an invitation. Misspelling a name gives the impression you don't care if they come, which in turn makes the guest not care either.

1. Your Guests Heard How Horrible You Were While Planning Your Wedding. Your Bridezilla-like behavior will come back to haunt you so keep that in mind. Word gets around, especially if it's something others would consider good gossip. "Did you hear Heather tried to rip the dress she liked off of another bride at the store?!" Yeah, people are going to hear about it especially if there's a story like this to go along with every aspect of your wedding planning. While it may make for funny gossip, people are typically not going to want to be around for your hysterical tirades. Keep your attitude in check while planning.

Inevitably not everyone you invite will be able to make it to your wedding. Schedules don't always work out (yes even with a Save The Date) and emergencies come up. When you do get an RSVP with a No, try not to take it personally. If you've avoided the mistakes mentioned, you can rest assured the reason for the no isn't because of something you did. Enjoy your wedding day, and make sure to have pictures ready soon after. Your missing guests will want to see them!