Top 5 Tips for Successful Christian Singles Dating

Let's face it - the dating scene can be a pretty scary place. We often times put so much pressure on ourselves that we end up projecting an image different from the person we actually are. This is especially true if you are a Christian trying to find love through dating. The important thing to remember is that God does have a plan and a person meant just for you; the adventure lies in finding out what (and who) it may be. How can you transform dating into a productive endeavor? In this article, we'll give you the top 5 tips for successful Christian singles dating that are sure to make your next date a rewarding experience.

Tip #1 - Learn to love yourself

This is the first rule to enjoying a more fulfilling life, and it is also the first rule for successful Christian dating. If you can't love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? You may feel self-conscious about what you perceive to be a physical flaw, but remember that the outward appearance is only a fraction of the wonder that is you! God also granted you a beautiful spirit and an ability to be personable, so use these traits to your advantage. Have confidence in yourself as a person, and you are sure to exude that positive energy. This will definitely be apparent to your date, and it will have a calming effect on them as well. Remember that your date is just as nervous as you are, and displaying positive self-esteem is sure to make your date more comfortable.

Tip #2 - Ask questions about your date

This accomplishes two goals - it shows a definite interest in the things that your date enjoys, and it also helps you determine if the qualities you look for are present. Be sure to always listen to what your date has to say; the effort will be noticed and appreciated. If you are shy or have trouble thinking of topics to discuss, it might be a good idea to ask a general question (centering on topics such as movies, books, hobbies, etc.) to get the conversation started down a path of mutual participation.

Tip #3 - Be courteous in all aspects

This should be an easy (and obvious) tip to follow. It is definitely advised that you be on time; nothing can get a date started on the wrong foot like showing up late. If you are Christian male, make sure you are doing the gentlemanly things expected of you, such as opening doors and offering up an occasional compliment. An important rule of thumb regarding compliments: Only give one if you really mean it - insincere comments are often easily spotted.

Tip #4 - Remember your priorities

It is important to identify the reasons you are on the date. If you are on the date strictly for fun (and there is nothing wrong with this, as we will discuss in a bit), then have a great time and take no inventory. However, if you are on the date with the intention of identifying long-term possibilities, then you should act accordingly (but this is not to say don't have a good time!). Just don't settle for anything less than you feel you want or need in your life. Only God knows the best path for your life to take, and He would not plant the seeds of what you feel is important without good reason.

The final and most important tip to always keep in mind is to HAVE FUN! Regardless of whether you are searching for a friend or a long term companion, remember the purpose of dating is to meet new people and have a great time doing it.

We hope you find these top 5 tips for successful Christian singles dating to be helpful. While it is true that dating can be a nerve-wracking experience, just keep in mind that God is giving you the gift of meeting new and special people just like yourself, and you should embrace the opportunity. Now go out there and get dating!