Top Ten Things Women Should Know About Men

...As If We Didn't Know Already.

Ayanna Guyhto
There are tons of books and talk shows which dedicate their efforts to educating women on the mysterious ways of the male species. But really, if women took the time to examine the wants of their counterparts, they'd be in for quite a few surprises. Take a look:

10- ALL BLACK SHOES LOOK THE SAME TO HIM. - Of course this may be somewhat of an exaggeration. But face it, Ladies...Men typically are not offered as many styles in the same color as women are. Therefore, that strappy black slingback, is EXACTLY the same as the peeptoe black slingback.

9- "HOW WAS YOUR DAY?" doesn't mean "How was your day?" - As insensitive as it sounds, when men ask this question, they typically do not want a play-by-play of your entire day. Quite frankly, it's boring. And unless you have something specific you want to discuss with him, he really doesn't care about your co-worker's son's Little League Game.

8- INITIATE SEX. - Yes, sometimes men want women to be a bit more aggressive in the bedroom, especially if they tend to make the first move most of the time. Men do enjoy a chase. But after being together for a while, they need to feel wanted as well. Initiate sex a bit more often, and you could see dramatic improvements in your sex life.

7- "NOTHING'S WRONG" means, nothing is wrong. - Sometimes that quiet, brooding type of man is simply having a quiet moment to himself. Women are the ones who ordinarily like to discuss and plan the details of almost everything. But men are more hands on. When they are quiet, it doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong - only that they are thinking.

6- "I LOVE YOU" isn't always said with words. - Once women understand that men show love in a variety of ways, women will happier. Recognizing loving gestures will definitely help get the point across. Sometimes those three little words are being screamed loud and clear, with actions instead.

5- HE DOESN'T REALLY WANT TO KNOW ALL ABOUT YOUR PAST. - Sure, you've had honest dialogue about your previous racy adventures. But guess what? Men don't want to know EVERYTHING you've done, and EVERYONE you've done it with. A little mystery helps keep some of the fire alive. And besides, there is nothing wrong with keeping some private things, private.

4- DON'T BE A DOORMAT. - Whoever coined the phrase that nice guys finish last, was actually onto something. While this doesn't mean that you should be rude or inconsiderate to your sweetie, it does mean that you should stand firm about things you believe in. Don't cave in to every whim for the sake of keeping your man around. In the end, it doesn't usually work anyway. Stand firm in your beliefs, and you'll maintain not only your integrity, but a healthy relationship.

3- HAVE A LIFE! - Make sure that you've got something going on the side. No, not someone -something. Activities, friends, and hobbies are all important in keeping you sane. It's fine to do things together. But no one can stand to be around someone 24 hours a day without there being tension from time to time. The phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder" has a huge ring of truth.

2- DON'T LET YOURSELF GO... - This doesn't mean bending your looks to satisfy the whims of your man. And it doesn't mean refusing to wear a particular style that he likes. Women should make sure that they feel as sexy as they did on the day they met their mates. A few pounds here and there may not make a difference to your beau. But if you've gained over 100lbs, first ask yourself if YOU'RE happy with it. If not, then do something about it - FOR YOU. A happier YOU makes for a happier "us".

1- COMPLIMENT HIM. - Men like and need to feel attractive too. However, make sure that the compliments are genuine. If you like the way he looks in his favorite shirt, say so. Not only is it a boost to his confidence, but it lets him know that he's still attractive to you as well!

Published by Ayanna Guyhto - Featured Contributor in Arts & Entertainment

Transplanted New Yawwwker (Bronx, NY), now living in fabulous Atlanta - plunged into the music industry several years ago; Indie Flick Junkie, lover of all things paranormal--who has a penchant for mindless...  View profile

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  • dose it matter1/1/2011

    men will always be men there all attractive to other women!
    no matter what!! my boyfriend always looks, stares , and say to me dam shes fin or hot or what ever
    it shouldn't bother you think of it this way who is he always with who dose he spend more time with??
    its just a moment of time that he;ll be lookin at another women just play along with him an say'dam your right she is hot or has a big ass' ha i'll just make him smile an get over it. but if you make a big deal about it i'll just make him think your to insecure whit him and men don't like that at all. and thats y they go out an try to find someone better and thats when you say i hate him n blah blah blah,,
    so don't take it to serous an have fun with your partner let him go out with friends an you do the same if you think hes cheating just pretend you don't know and next time he goes out tag along and see were ya'l go if he says'oh no they don't what to hang out or i'm to tired

  • zhie zhie10/14/2010

    i hate them so much.....!

  • kal8/5/2010

    girls or guys be your self or you wont get it

  • tracy7/28/2010

    i think men are always stupid i hate my hubby becoz hez a player he likes women

  • Mike2/26/2010

    11) When talking on the phone don't expect a guy to want to talk all day and night.. Most men hate talking on the phone, after ten minutes get off the phone if the conversation is going anywhere.

  • Kaite M. Brace1/2/2010

    My Husband isn't like that, He isn't into sports but music. He WANTS to know Everything about me! and i dont like to lie to him at all! He want's to know How my Day is and My past EVERYTHING He is Really Unique and i love that about him!

  • Linda M. McCloud11/25/2009

    I agree with many of these statements, except my man loves to talk about his day the moment he arrives at home. Guess he is unique.

  • Angela Kaelin3/30/2009

    So much here is so true. I never ask "How was your day? - I wait a while and he will tell me the humorous highlights.

    Mine is a neat freak, clotheshorse, but he is clueless about women's attire.

    No, they don't want to know your past - even if they interrogate you. Lie! Seriously, it will be better if you don't tell the truth. It's an invitation to trouble if you tell the truth. Anything you say can and will be used against you - it will be an excuse to abuse you at some time or other. Tell him you're the madonna and stick to it.


  • Skye5/6/2008

    Great!!!! This is exactly what alot of women need to know, I do like hearing about my babys past but not about relations especialy if they were skinnyer or better than me. XD

  • g12/13/2007

    men aren't offered in as many styles and colours ?Wierdos

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