Twice in a Lifetime?

I do not watch Ghost Whisperer very often, but it was on while I was at work last night. The episode was about a man that had died during the Vietnam War. At the end of the episode, the man saw the proverbial light, and then his eyes filled with tears at the sight of his wife, who had died at some point in the recent past. She was waiting for him to cross over. This made me wonder what would have happened if she had remarried? To whom would her loyalties have belonged? Would she have had to make a choice between her first husband and her second?

I am certainly not going to tell someone not to marry again once a spouse has passed away, especially if you have a long and lonely life ahead of you, but what happens when you die and enter into heaven? To whom do you belong? Whose hand do you reach out to? Whose lips do you kiss? And quite possibly the saddest question of them all, when you're first spouse sees you for the first time once you pass through the gates of heaven, how does he survive the broken heart of knowing you've promised yourself to another? I know that marriage vows say "Till death do us part," and upon the death of a spouse, one is free to remarry, but even in death, you aren't really apart! So how do give yourself to someone, and then lose him, and then find someone else, and then not owe both of them your heart once each of you has passed away?

To be perfectly honest, I have not been married, so I don't have the experience to say what I would or would not do for certain. However, I think that if I were married, and my spouse's only "crime" against me was to pass away at a young age, I probably could not do anything to hurt him so deeply as to remarry. I know plenty of people who have remarried after the death of a spouse and plenty of others that have remained single. And I am certainly not makinga judgment call; I am simply trying to picture the face of the man I love waiting for me in Heaven, only to realize I had given my love away to someone else. My heart is broken at the mere thought.